Is it possible he is tracking my WhatsApp?

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It's possibly (probably?) coincidence, but two or three times in the past couple of years, my husband has said something very specific that I'd said earlier that day on whatsapp. Both times it was in a chat with my sister, I think.

On each occasion it was when I was relating the whatsapp conversation to my husband that he then said something specific that my sister and I had said to each other in that chat.

I've nothing to hide, so I'm not concerned about him finding out something, and if he is tracking me I can't imagine why - our marriage is fine.

My whatsapp account isn't linked to any other devices but mine, but is it possible for him to somehow be monitoring my phone and / or laptop? I couldn't find anything online that would explain it, and there's nothing I can find in my devices (I'm pretty tech-savvy). Is there some kind of malware that can hide that your account is linked?

He doesn't have any kind of contact with my sister, he hasn't even seen her in years as we live abroad and I tend to visit on my own.

It has to be a coincidence doesn't it? The examples were so specific though.

DH’s phone and iPad profiles are linked, and when unlocked, messages sent from his phone briefly appear on his iPad.
Maybe you DH briefly saw a message pop up?

Also, if your phone is set to display message content when locked he could just glance at your phone notifications and read messages.

Important to get that setting changed on your phone if this is the case, as thieves can use this to get one-time passcodes off locked phones, to reset passwords and gain access to your online accounts.

This! Just make up a few things see if he mentions anything.

But why did your sister make the throwaway remark about Lord Byron? Chances are that something in the outside world, or maybe on social media triggered something at the back of her mind and your husband may have seen the same thing or something similar.

IME it's quite common for several people who don't know each other to suddenly mention the same thing to you. It will have been caused by external stimuli triggering other thoughts, that they may not have ben aware of.

I think this is a more likely theory than that your husband is spying on your WhatsApp and chose to bring up an obscure subject that you'd discussed.

Yeah I would have to set a very subtle trap and see what happens.

No I have all pop-up notifications disabled, because they annoy me and I don't check my whatsapp constantly. My account isn't linked to any devices he uses, and my devices are password protected. I suppose he might know my codes, not sure how. Or why he would bother reading my inane chats with my sister if he did. I have less than zero interest in knowing what he talks to his family about.

Maybe uninstall then reinstall your apps and see if that'll makes a difference. My ex realised while on holidays that his gf had set up his phone and laptop so she could see any tests, watsapp, emails etc that he sent!! He was absolutely shocked and split with her (then married her a few years later)!! He had no reason to suspect her spying on him and it was her mentioning something he had text a friend about his holiday that alerted him.

but set up presumably by just adding the accounts to her laptop? I know he hasn't done that.

I agree, Just looked Lord Byron in the news and there have been reports of large amounts of money being pledged for the repairs to Newstead Abbey, his ancestral home, in the last week or so. Apparently it will cost 8.5 million overall!
I can imagine this might have been reported widely. I believe Byron is known in other countries, including Greece where he is apparently revered, and apparently he lived in Italy for years and interestingly, a Byron museum opened there earlier this year.

If you were talking to him about what you had been talking about with your sister it wouldn't be surprising he could see where the conversation was going and pre-empted it. I often get to where my DH is going in conversation before he actually says it, which if he had written it somewhere might seem like I had been reading his stuff.

Maybe you are quite predictable. I often know what my partner is likely to have said about something after so many years.

Yes, it's most likely this.

Or he's psychic.

He could have your WhatsApp on his laptop.

One technical possibility is that he has a computer with WhatsApp for Mac/WhatsApp for Windows on it. Those are brilliant because you can do your WhatsApps with a proper keyboard. You need the phone to set this up by scanning a QR code to connect your account, but you only need to do that once, and then the computer gets all of your WhatsApp messages. So he might have done that and connected your account once when he had your phone for a minute.

However, you said that no other devices are connected, which I presume you've checked in the app, so that would seem to exclude this possibility. If it's only once a year I think it's most likely to be coincidence. I know that if I was monitoring DP's WhatsApp I would be blurting something out every half an hour.

This thread is mad. I can’t believe people are serious about setting traps etc. My husband and I can look at each others’ phones/ messages all the time- he has WhatsApp on the desktop computer, we know each others’ pins etc. I don’t make a habit of it but I would not be horrified if I saw him going looking at messages or vice versa. It’s nearly all crap and not in the least interesting as you say, although sometimes I do find out about plans he’s made and forgotten to mention etc. I would be more concerned if someone was overly protective of privacy around their phone- would suggest to me they had something to hide. If the relationship is fine then just ask him.

Sorry should add, I’m sure I would feel differently if I had ever been cheated on or if DH had given me reason to be suspicious, but you haven’t mentioned this.

My ex used to make similar comments and it turns out he had put some sort of spyware on my phone.

If he has had access to your phone he may have installed WhatsApp Web on a computer with full access to your chats.

No, nothing like this going on - not now, or in the past.

Are your friends aware that nothing they say to you is private and that your DH has the ability to read all their messages?

You can use WhatsApp on a computer, logging in with your phone account I believe. It’s been ages since I’ve done this and I think I needed to approve the log in via WhatsApp on my phone

No, the point is not that I have anything to hide - I have no problem with him looking at my phone or laptop when they happen to be unlocked.

The point is that neither of us has each other's passwords, and we don't use each other's devices, so in theory there's no way for him to have this information.

No, I said in my OP he hasn't - I have my whatsapp account installed on my laptop, and that's the only linked device.

How about tall2to dsis about sken absolutely random gift you would love for Christmas..
And stand back and wait.
Personally I'd have my tech in a shop for a check over. No nice dh spies on his dw..

Are there other issues in your relationship?