Is it possible he is tracking my WhatsApp?

[CoolFineDoneWicked]

It's possibly (probably?) coincidence, but two or three times in the past couple of years, my husband has said something very specific that I'd said earlier that day on whatsapp. Both times it was in a chat with my sister, I think.

On each occasion it was when I was relating the whatsapp conversation to my husband that he then said something specific that my sister and I had said to each other in that chat.

I've nothing to hide, so I'm not concerned about him finding out something, and if he is tracking me I can't imagine why - our marriage is fine.

My whatsapp account isn't linked to any other devices but mine, but is it possible for him to somehow be monitoring my phone and / or laptop? I couldn't find anything online that would explain it, and there's nothing I can find in my devices (I'm pretty tech-savvy). Is there some kind of malware that can hide that your account is linked?

He doesn't have any kind of contact with my sister, he hasn't even seen her in years as we live abroad and I tend to visit on my own.

It has to be a coincidence doesn't it? The examples were so specific though.

You can get WhatsApp on the iPad, so on the Mac too. Could he be looking at your account on your Mac, as it will mirror what’s on your iPhone, and mine does.
thats the most simple explanation.

Sorry I see others have said the same earlier..but it’s the obvious answer

I use Whatsapp on my laptop (Whatsapp Web) and phone interchangeably. You just have to scan a QR code in the app on the phone to get it on the laptop. If he has access to your phone, he could have linked it to Whatsapp Web on his laptop.

Most likely it's a coincidence unless it's something he couldn't possibly have known. Can you be more specific re what he said?

Do you ever use web whatsapp on a shared computer's browser and haven't logged out? If so, all he has to do is go on that computer's browser and type the URL, and he's in. However, you might probably have noticed strange activity like messages appearing to be read when you hadn't read them.

I'd say it's far more likely that your minds work in similar ways and whatever prompted you to talk about Byron (or whatever) in your conversation with your sister also prompted your husband to do the same when you were retelling aspects of the conversation to him later...

I do appreciate the contributions, but can pp read my OP (and subsequent posts) - the only linked device is my own laptop. That's why I wondered if there's a kind of spyware that can hide linked devices.

My ex did this. He took my phone at some point and used the QR code to log into my WhatsApp on his laptop.

I only found him out because i asked if we wanted to go for dinner one night and he said "isn't your sister coming over for dinner and drinks" I had messaged my sister earlier that day to see if she wanted to come over but she was unwell. I hadn't told him this.

I pushed and pushed how he would know this and eventually he told me.

Super sneaky. Hes an ex for a reason.

Seen your update - im not aware of spyware to be honest. WhatsApp is encrypted so even if he did have spyware I dont think he would clearly see the messages.

It surely has to be hes linked or mirroring some how

It feels strange that he'd be careless enough to mention things he'd learned from spying on you, especially if they are very specific or niche, but I suppose it's possible he's just slipped up.

I'd assume it's just a coincidence, though, if he isn't typically controlling and has no reason to suspect you of hiding things from him.

Why don’t you just ask him???

You think if he's actually spying on me he would just say so? That's more nuts than the idea that he's spying on me. I'm sure it must be coincidence.

The one my ex installed mirrored everything. Spying like this is often about control. Does he have traits that make you concerned he might have done this?

I hope so and I hope your mind is soon at rest! I just thought as you said you’re happy in your marriage and I’m sure you are you could just ask. But actually no I do get it I’m the type just to fester on things instead of just asking! Xxx

Seems most likely to be a coincidence and because his brain works in a similar way to yours and you spend a lot of time together; Derron Brown can make people think of specific things by subconsciously exposing them to things which make their brains make that connection. If you and DP spend a lot of time together whatever made you think of Byron may have made him do the same thing.

Its far more likely to be a coincidence than him spying on you, and if he was spying it would be pretty stupid of him to parrot back the things he’d read in the chat, he wouldn’t want to be found out so would surely avoid any references to your chats that would arouse suspicion.

My adult DD and I do this often (a couple of times a month). We’re not tracking each other but we obviously have a strong connection. Could it be this OP? A couple of times in as many years - it does feel strange when it happens but it is possible you’re just seeing/hearing the same tv, radio, conversations, and picking up on things subconsciously. it really could be a coincidence.

As pp have said, set a Colleen Rooney style trap and see if he mentions it. Anyone saying 'why would you do that?/just ask him?' etc does NOT get it.

Might he know your password and have logged in on his own phone/laptop?

Yes but what I mean is, if I've somehow got him all wrong for fifteen years, and it turns out he is the controlling spying type (without ever actually doing anything controlling), then he's also obviously not going to be honest about it.

Ok cool, I was trying to be nice. Hope you getting it sorted and your husband isn’t a psycho.

Then it's just pure coincidence then.

If you want a test, call him a cunt to your sister and see what he does.

I don't see how that's relevant in this situation where the couple involved dont do the things you do. Couples are all different

Is find an very niche topic being brought up by the husband very odd too. No harm in doing a little test .

It’s weird. I’d ask outright not because I’d expect an honest answer, but just to see what he said about it. I’d also probably beforehand, take both phone and MacBook to someone to check if spyware installed.

Lots of seemingly nice men (and women too probably) are chronic spies. Men who seem totally normal are also often voyeurs ... as we find out when they get caught filming in workplace toilets for example. Nothing would surprise me.

2/3 times in two years could easily be a coincidence, but you obviously feel something isn’t right so it might not be.

@CoolFineDoneWicked a friend did something similar, I think she scanned the QR code or something so that she had full access to her exes messages. The only thing was she could only see messages that were read. She did it to get evidence of his cheating.