Is it possible he is tracking my WhatsApp?

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It's possibly (probably?) coincidence, but two or three times in the past couple of years, my husband has said something very specific that I'd said earlier that day on whatsapp. Both times it was in a chat with my sister, I think.

On each occasion it was when I was relating the whatsapp conversation to my husband that he then said something specific that my sister and I had said to each other in that chat.

I've nothing to hide, so I'm not concerned about him finding out something, and if he is tracking me I can't imagine why - our marriage is fine.

My whatsapp account isn't linked to any other devices but mine, but is it possible for him to somehow be monitoring my phone and / or laptop? I couldn't find anything online that would explain it, and there's nothing I can find in my devices (I'm pretty tech-savvy). Is there some kind of malware that can hide that your account is linked?

He doesn't have any kind of contact with my sister, he hasn't even seen her in years as we live abroad and I tend to visit on my own.

It has to be a coincidence doesn't it? The examples were so specific though.

You don't even need an app. You just go to WhatsApp Web on your browser and get a QR code from the phone. I do it so I can type WA messages/attach docs from my laptop and you rarely have to log in again/ scan the QR code once you've done it.

If the Lord Byron thing happened earlier this week, there was a BBC story on October 25 about his former home getting a lot of money for refurbishment. That would be something they could each have seen out of the corner of their eye.

I think it's likely they were both reminded by something else.

Or, if it's a brand or place you or your sister looked up on your phone, data sharing means that her preferences and recent searches, and yours, and your DHs as another phone you are in communication with, are all shared. So an algorithm may well be serving DH and DS the same advert "Hace afternoon tea like Lord Byron at the Whatsis Hotel!". The connection is your phone.

Does he know your password? He could just be reading it off your phone

He might get targeted ads based on your convos as your phones communicate

Its probably something simple. Either its all just coincidence or he knows the pass codes to your phone/laptop and looks at them sometimes .

Rebekah Vardy and Mrs Wayne Roonie syndrome

Funny & Strange way for Hubby to behave

Maybe there is a Spy Camera or 2 or 3 in your home u don't know about

He has doubts about Marital fidelity - his or yours ........

Please do a sting operation and report back

I would do this.

What were the two examples? that's quite relevant

WhatsApp Online? I use it on Android Chromebook (for my own WhatsApp account, obviously)
You 'pair' the phone with the laptop/tablet using a QR code, and what you type on your phone also appears on the laptop (and vice versa). Possible he's done this? 🤔
No idea if it works for Mac/Apple

Are the things he's saying the same as things you've said or things your sister has said? If it's the former, maybe it's because your brains are in synch because you've shared conversations/TV programmes/stuff out and about.

Stalkerware exists. If you have fingerprint unlocking on your phone, your partner can use your finger to open your phone whilst you sleep and then install the stalkerware. I don't know whether face unlocking can work with closed eyes.

He is looking at your phone imo. Suggest drip feed here of more

Do you mean you suggest I drip feed more info? I mean, I could make something up if it'll entertain.

I assumed the poster more meant you should say "odd you should randomly mention Lord Byron; I was chatting to my sister about him earlier today" and see what he says. If he says (for example) - "oh there was an article about him on the news site I read" or "someone mentioned him at work" then you have a bit of a clue.

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Coincidences are just connections that remain obscure. I agree with PP - set some kind of test. It's invasive and violating to be spied upon. If I were you I would need to find out if I am being spied upon or not. I would not mention anything to him again until you have set the 'test'. I guess, after that, you have some hard thinking to do. What else is he doing, if anything? Secret cams set up at home?

There is no chance of secret cameras or anything like that, I do all the IoT and electrical installations at our house.

Only way to know for sure is to Wagatha

Working in IT security, there are tons of mirroring/cloning and tracking apps available.
It's very easy to do, and it's not an uncommon thing for people to justify in their heads.

To me, something specific such as your "Lord Byron" reference, and especially with it having happened more than once, very much makes me think tracking rather than coincidence.

I would consider logging out of everything, wiping and reinstalling my phone completely, and setting up new passwords and 2FA on everything. And also for my laptop. Plus running extensive anti-malware scans on all devices before doing all the above so that you have the best chance of picking up anything untoward.

Best of luck.

You can see the pairing though on your phone if anyone does by checking in WhatsApp settings - OP seems quite tech minded enough to know that -

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Camera - and then she hides ... and then so does he --

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I maybe wrong but I have just downloaded WhatsApp on my pc at work so I now have on my phone and my pc, if you husband had access to your phone at anytime could he have downloaded WhatsApp onto his phone or pc and know your log in details, I cant remember if they sent a pin number to my phone but even if he had your phone for 5 mins this could be done

He's either reading your chat on your phone or laptop obviously. Why do you think this is impossible? He must do it when you're not near them and he knows the passwords of them

I haven't read the other responses while I'm quickly eating my lunch, but I do know there's a way of logging onto WhatsApp account on a pc as well as your mobile device if your chats are backed up automatically. Google it and see if it could be a possibility?