How many times per week?

[oddball21]

Settle a debate for me please. If you're married or have been in a long term relationship for 20 years or more, how many times per week are you having se x?

Would like to see for myself but also demonstrate to my husband that I'm not abnormal.

Thank you!

Not 20 years but 15 years - if a good week maybe 2 or 3 but can have some weeks where its 0 for a few weeks. Just depends what's going on with life, work, kids and stress levels.

I don't believe in setting a x times per week it's not a switch and setting targets then can make it feel a chore

Not 20 years but 15 years - if a good week maybe 2 or 3 but can have some weeks where its 0 for a few weeks. Just depends what's going on with life, work, kids and stress levels.

I don't believe in setting a x times per week it's not a switch and setting targets then can make it feel a chore

There is no answer for this.

We can go from every day. Sometimes more than once a day to nothing for several weeks and everything in between.

It completely depends on what's going on and where you both are at.

Regardless of sex or not we kiss every single day and hug as often as possible.

I think setting expectations on how many times per week spoils the fun of it.

"Righto, it's Tuesday so that means chicken and chips at 6, a game of backgammon at 8 and then promptly at 9:30, sex! Lights out at 9:50 precisely!"

It was just a light-hearted question really. I appreciate the it fluctuates and not expecting to need to book in appointments, just curious.

None, after 25 years.
Until earlier this year it was maybe once a month, maybe less.

Me and DP are mid-40s, been together for 18 years.

It's hard to say "per week", because sometimes it's none, sometimes it's every night or even more.

I'd say we probably manage about 15 times a month on average, so every other day on average, but it ebbs and flows. The middle of October to the middle of November tends to be an almost complete write-off, just because there's too much going on, with Birthdays to plan and other less pleasant anniversaries, and DP finds it very hard to get in the mood when her head is too full of "stuff".

We make up for it other times of year though.

25 years together here and daily if we get the chance, but if other stuff gets in the way it’s still 3-4 times.

Mid 50's, together 17 years, our sex life is virtually non existent. He has ED and just makes no effort. We've had sex 6 times this year. All lasted for about 10 minutes tops. It's been pretty dire for a few years.

28 years, generally once or twice a week. More on holiday been like that for about 25 years. It works for us :)

Once a fortnight ish, but that’s mostly down to opportunity with offspring in the house. Would probably be more if we had the privacy, but once or twice a week would be enough.

Single here. So, whenever I want 😜 and not if I don’t.

Married 10 years with 3 small children. once a week if lucky

As many times as we want to. I think putting a quota on it ruins the mood a bit!

Mid 50s married over 20 years, about 6 times a year. I could do without it altogether.

I was with my husband for 32yrs, and we didn't have sex at all for the last 6yrs. He suffered from premature ejaculation, so if you asked him he would say we had a great sex life for the first 20yrs of marriage as he had a happy ending every time. But I could have been a throw cushion and he would have still got off.

I couldn't be bothered in the end, so avoided sex.

Married for 35 years.

I've just asked my husband, he laughed and said 'On average or on a good week? The answer is between 1-2 on average and 4 on a good week.'

His libido has always been higher than mine.

Together 23 years, married 20. We’ve probably dropped to once per week ish at the minute as I’ve having quite a few issues that are making it some times painful. I’d like it to be more but my body isn’t playing right now. We have some form of contact 2-4ish times a week.

Been together 24 years, married for 20! I’m 42 and him 48, we have sex about 2/3 times a week?

Together 16years, mid 30s, 2 young-ish kids. Tends to ebb and flow. Sometimes not at all for a few weeks, then a few nights in a row, then a few weeks of not all all. Probably averages once a week.

We've been together 20 years, married for 13.

Surely it depends hugely on what else is going on? In any long term relationships there will be peaks and troughs. We have 4 DC and in a definite dry spell at the moment - one DS keeps having nightmares and wants daddy to sleep in his bed, one DS is not doing so well with night dryness and needs a wee twice and night and the toddler is getting her back teeth and is waking up and hard to resettle from 3am. Sex is just NOT on the agenda right now. But give it 6 months and I imagine (hope!) That these things will have passed, as they have before.

It varies so much. It could be none if we’re really busy and stressed or exhausted. Some weeks it could be every night. It also varies a lot in terms of the actual activity - we’ll each happily do something solely for the other person’s pleasure at times.

Typically once a month but if lucky then sometimes 3 times a month. I would love a few times a week but I have a much higher sex drive than my wife. For some reason my wife typically is more in the mood for sex the week after her period then rest of the month she isn’t bothered.

Together 15 years married for 5, both late 40s. No sex for over a year, he has ED and is doing nothing about it. He is always working, away on work visits or too tired, I've almost given up. I wanted to join this thread to see that I'm not alone.

Married 33 years, both mid-fifties. It varies according to what else is going on, work stress etc. I’d say 1-2 times per week on average, occasionally we won’t do it at all in a
particular week but other times it might be 3 or 4 times. Most days on holiday.

23 years together- 2/3 times a week, one of those times may not be sex but ‘other stuff’ as despite HRT etc I am struggling with being so sore.