How many times per week?

[oddball21]

Settle a debate for me please. If you're married or have been in a long term relationship for 20 years or more, how many times per week are you having se x?

Would like to see for myself but also demonstrate to my husband that I'm not abnormal.

Thank you!

30 years. Twice a month. Pretty much scheduled. it works for us.

14 years married, together 24 years, mid 40’s. Lucky if it’s one a month. Been about a month since last time and before then was probably longer. He’s just really not bothered! And in my head I am bothered but I’ve pretty much given up now. But I’ve given up on most of the relationship to be honest.

Crikey, so many women similar age to me doing it 3-4 times per week!
My DH would be delighted with that, but my drive has completely evaporated.
I don't think we've done 3-4 times per week for 20-odd years.

Coming into late 60s married to older DH for 36 years. Twice a week, usually scheduled because it works best that way and his sex drive has always been much higher than mine. I always take a week off each month though because even though I’m post- menopausal, I still feel I can’t bear to be touched at around my old period times. Weird

It’s not 3-4 times per week all the time! As I said 1-2 times would be average. Peri had the opposite effect on me….sex drive went through the roof. I’d be happy with a lot more than 1-2 times per week but DH is exhausted in the week (long working hours) so we find a compromise. Roles have reversed a bit (he was always the one with the higher sex drive) so we’re finding a new norm.

Not long single myself but had been married 24 years and until the last six months (affair) prior to that it was probably average of 7 times a week. Not every day - sometimes it would be three times a day, other days none at all. But we’d kiss and hug all the time so it kept the intimacy. Wasn’t enough for him though.

Just depends how you feel.

I only see him at weekends which skews the figures a bit! If I'm not ill/having a pain flare up, on a good week at least 2-3 times. Though my health has been shit and it got to 3 weeks without 😩

Fair play to him he's very understanding (and I happily turn a blind eye to him seeing to himself for relief when I'm not able to...participant 🫢)

Once a week, sometimes twice

The last time was on holiday in June 🤬together 25 years married 21 years

suspect not a debate at all

If you have sex and then restart sex again wouid you count that as sex once or twice?

Married nearly 42 years. We go through phases of sex every day, sometimes several times a day to none for a couple of weeks. Probably averages about twice a week.

Been together since 2003. We do it 2 or 3 times a week on average, it's always been lovely and I wouldn't want to be without.

He does have to initiate though, I can't, and I'm always happy when he does!

Very similar stats here, although you had better luck on holiday with your DH than I did with my DW 😅

@GreenCrowinwouldnt say I was lucky. Perfunctory is the word I’d use

Once a month if lucky am amenopausal woman. Been together 25 years

Sadly I know exactly what you mean, it's that kind of thing which leads to you giving up trying to initiate things 😓

@GreenCrow @sexlesshusbandwoes there’s a sexless marriage thread on the sex board. It’s been going a long time and a lot of support from people going through the same problem. I’m very sad for you both, emotionally and physically it’s soul destroying :(

Married 23 years. Intimate every 7 to 10 days (on average! We don't mark the calendar, but it's very rare we'd go longer than say 10 days).

Once a month if that. Through my work I hear alot of peoples sex lives....trust me this 3 times a week thing is a myth for vast majority. Lots going months at a time with nothing...dont stress about quantity....

Both mid fifties, married 21 years.
I'd say on average once a fortnight, sometimes much more sometimes less. Mostly depends on work stress, tiredness and the teenagers whereabouts.

Thanks all. For those making suggestions about my reasons for asking, please reread my question and perhaps ask yourself why you're immediate reaction was a snippy comment. My question was born purely from being inquisitive after having a conversation. There is no ulterior motive or expectation from either side. It's obviously different for everyone depending on their situation and time of life. Like everyone else, we have been through dry spells and it's often famine of feast. It's interesting to hear everyone elses take on it. Thanks

Married for 30 years, 5/6 times a month.

Good grief, per week , haven’t done it per week for at least ten years, per month would be lucky