Good evening ladies, this is my first time posting and I’d appreciate some support.
Background- Me (35F) a naturally shy and unconfident person who has fought through life with several abusive relationships. I have a one year old and my partner (42M).
We have been together for 10 years and have faced many challenges together in that period. He is smart, initially very kind, soft and dependable. Over the last few years he has become increasingly depressed and unhappy with me/us/himself. He attempted to commit suicide a few years ago, he says I didn’t support him through this. I tried to listen and be there for him and encouraged him to speak to others aside from me, tried to find him a counsellor etc.
He kept saying he was feeling awful and began to smash things in the house and self harm. I was devastated he felt he had no other choice but to do this but also very scared by his smashing things, including in front of our DS.
After months of this, he anger turned to me and he physically assaulted me one morning about nine months ago. It wasn’t just a slap but an assault. He was mortified by his actions, said he had a complete mental break down and was charged for the offence.
We have since seen each other a little bit but I wanted to ask would you ever be able to forgive someone for this? Move on together or would this totally be the end?
Thank you, I appreciate you reading this.