Passive aggressive Xmas presents for nightmare MIL

[Kathwithaknotc]

Please hit me up with THE best passive aggressive Xmas/birthday presents for nightmare MIL who is a right CF… must be able to pass off as thoughtful though. Age 70ish

I knew someone whose MIL was a horrible hypocrite. Was unbelievably cruel to her sun whilst front and centre at church pillar of the community etc. my friend got her a charity gift were you buy something for someone in the developing world. She could tell she was disappointed but had to pretend she loved it being the great Christian that she was

Just let your husband sort any gifts for her. Refuse to engage.

As for those thinking she must be respected because she's 70, hard nope.

Respect is earned, regardless of age. If someone is a horrible human being and has happily caused damage and trauma for other humans, I'm not going to pretend otherwise just because they've reached a certain age.

A really sensitive difficult to care for orchid. Then ask about it all the time.

@Kathwithaknotc This thread might give you some inspiration 😁good luck!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4982152-presents-that-are-more-hassle-than-fun?page=1

one of these, you could personalise it to say "from your favourite grandkids Thelma and Louise"

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1184601535/personalised-worlds-best-grandma-gift?gpla=1&gao=1&

Huh? The two friends that drove off a mountain?

Imagine being this pathetic.

A lovely decorated gift hamper… full of cleaning products!

Excellent article with relevant quote:
'But if you are cranking up the volume on passive aggression, I strongly recommend a donation in their name to a charity you like but suspect they would not — ideally one that then spams them with appeal letters is a fine choice. It is so much better than more clutter for your home, you might add. Or adopt a zoo animal for them — nothing too obvious, no skunks or snakes. But something drab, a slow loris perhaps.'

ha! This made me laugh out loud and my in laws are wonderful 😂 where better to vent

Choose whatever hobby she enjoys and get her a beginners guide

My MIL used to be as horrible as they come. I used to think about doing the same, but always gave her my 100%. So when the time came that she showed her true colours, my husband sided with me. We haven’t spoken to her for 8 years now.
You don’t want to give your husband a reason to discredit you too!

Free yourself, chuck it in the bin today. Stamp on her (photo) head before you do it. It has no purpose in a cupboard other than to make you feel bad knowing it's there.

Lol. My mil is lovely my mother not so much. Agree respect works two way.

Buy her a book 😉

www.reddit.com/r/suggestmeabook/comments/12rlgvl/book_about_narcissistic_mothers/

Personalised nostril clippers

An afternoon of bungee jumping off the Shard

Teach Your Self Tree Surgery book with accompanying chainsaw

Adopt a snake in a local zoo in her name?

I’ve been the recipient of a goat somewhere in South America, and it pissed me off no end because I had spent ages choosing a thoughtful present for the goat giver. In fact, after that year we agreed no presents for adults, so it was a bit of a win in the end.

I had a boyfriend many moons ago who gave me a revoltingly cheap foam greyhound racing clock with moveable bits. I have never indicated I like greyhounds . I’ve tried to find an internet image of it but even the internet has decided it was too awful to retain in its annuls.

Tbh I think the best gift would be a nice framed photo of your DH and kids, without you in it. The message being that you have removed yourself from her sphere of influence. Possibly too subtle for her, but you’ll know.

https://onlineshop.oxfam.org.uk/building-peace-and-rebuilding-after-conflict/product/OU1292RR?sku=OU1292RR

My MIL always gets me anti wrinkle face cream.

My MIL wasn’t great with presents. Particularly my daughter. We just laugh about it 20 years later. I would never have reciprocated with a disrespectful gift.

Not if they’ve spent years being miserly, spiteful and vindictive they don’t. What nonsense. Being old doesn’t absolve you of your previous behaviour.

a plastic statue of Mary Magdalen. Catholic Plastic Blue Mary Statue Madonna Handmade Virgin Mary Statue Jesus Christmas Home Decoration Christmas Gift - AliExpress 36

Works as passive aggressive unless she is Catholic. In which case, a mug. Fill this one with only the crap quality streets she doesn't like: I Hate Everyone Mug, Retro Rainbow Cloud Mug, Funny Passive Aggressive Coffee Cup, 80s Cartoon Style, Sarcastic Gift | 11oz - Etsy UK

Does she dislike gay people? Buy her the children's book "And Tango Makes Three".

You sound awful. Give her the gift of your absence.

Sounds like a narc. You have my sympathies.