Genuine question about women's attraction

[Loubanez]

Today I was 35 (M) unscrewing a shelf from the wall of our living room, while meanwhile I had our 4 week old son asleep happy and attached to me in a sling.
I glanced over to the other side of the room and my wife was watching me with a slight grin and lustful look in her eye,
I asked her, 'whats up' she said she found it very attractive that a man has a maternal side, ie looking after the baby. She said she found it attractive any also many other women would. I disagreed thinking it was un-man like to be looking after a child in that way and that many women would be naturally put off by a man undertaking that role that is usually by a women.
Anyway we had a small discussion and thought we would put it to a poll.
What do you guys think?

I think you’re a misogynist

You’re not maternal, you are paternal.

btw I have absolutely no problem helping out and want to help my wife as much as I possibly can in any way, I was wanted to understand from a women's perspective

You’re a sexist dinosaur with views that were outdated in the 1950’s

Thatscif this actually happened if course

“Helping out”? You mean parenting your own child?

Men who can be useful and actually contribute to a household are attractive. Do please enlighten any friends who are the opposite as to where they are going wrong if they suddenly complain they don't get any sex or partners.

Congratulations, your wife was hot for you and you managed to say the most pathetically unsexy thing I think any woman could think of. I heard her vagina clamp shut from here. Poor woman.

Also parenting your own child is not "helping your wife".

How can a man get to an age where he actually brings another life into the world and not think women are attracted to men who can actually look after children and be a good husband? You think women like baby killers and asshats who sit on their arses or go down the pub or do other "manly" things? No, men go to the gym to impress other men, not women. Are we still having to tell men that we just want the basics in 2025? The internet has been around for so long, yet men seem to be very loathe to use it to find out anything other than porn sites...

Did she, aye?

I don’t think the baby should be breathing in the dust from unscrewing the shelf -
was it wood or mdf?

Unscrewing a shelf with a baby in a sling sounds incredibly unsafe. If baby is on your front you could drop shelf on his/her head. If baby is on your back you could lose your balance and fall over and squash him/her. If I was your wife I'd be telling you to stop being a pillock and give me the baby, not sitting there grinning like a dappy fool.

This didn't happen, did it?

Yes obviously it’s hugely attractive to see your other half be an alpha male by carrying out paternal duties and by being… You know.. a father

ps fathers don’t help out, they parent

Are we allowed to call troll these days?

Never happened

M hmm

Well, to your actual question - yes, couples where the man does an equal share of housework/parenting have WAAAAAAAY more sex than couples where the woman has to do everything. They've done studies on this - it's definitely a thing women are attracted to.

However your writing is riddled with misogynistic tropes "helping my wife" no you're not helping her, you're parenting, the work for looking after the child is equally hers and yours - when she does childcare would you say she's "helping you out?" She's not the default parent just because she's a woman. And also your assumption that it is "unman" to parent a child is so ridiculous. Even lions that have a naturally patriarchal setup, the male lions parent a lot.

Also, an aide that the latest anthropological.studies suggest humans have more of a matriarchal setup in nature anyway, so men and women are naturally equal at childrearing. Basically you've bought into a lot of modern day sexism rubbish - but the idea that men who do equal parenting and housework get a lot more sex/are more attractive to women isn't wrong.

You get that you’re not ‘helping your wife out’ by looking after your own baby. While unscrewing your own shelf.

But as this almost certainly never happened apart from in your personal ‘Diet Coke break with a baby sling’ fantasies…

Tell us more about your imaginary wife.

I'm trying to imagine your wife looking at you lustfully instead of taking the baby off you.....I can't. This never happened.

So your wife looks at you lustfully and all you end up doing is have a small discussion?

Was it morning when you woke up?

How is putting a shelf up and looking after your own child “ helping your wife out “! !

1. Go back to Reddit.

2.This never happened.

3.Looking after a baby is not only a maternal task it’s also a paternal task. If you are the child’s father then you are being paternal, not maternal.

4.Not sure why you think doing tasks around the house or relating to childcare is helping your wife out - presumably you are a father, husband and joint homeowner so all tasks are your joint responsibility.

5.Do you always spoil intimate moments with your wife by contradicting her and turning them into disagreements about male and female roles? What are you looking for here? More ammunition to prove your wife wrong?

5.You are being ridiculous to suggest that there is such a thing as a ‘women’s perspective’. I suppose you think women aren’t really people, just a homogeneous sub- class of people that all think and act the same?

6.First post nailed it.

Did you come here just so all the women would fall over themselves to tell you that you're such a good dad? And therefore very attractive?

These sorts of men on mumsnet. 🙄🤮 Let’s be honest, no woman looks lustfully at them ever and that’s why they come on here, writing posts like this to try to get attention from women.

A new baby in a sling, plus DIY? Have you no common sense?
Put the baby safely down in another room, away from all the dust and potential to have a shelf land on it's head. Dear god, I've heard some daft stuff on here.
Go to some basic parenting classes and get yourself informed.