Boobs in your face!

[YehaaYessir]

So I've been to a couple of wedding receptions recently and a formal event for DH's work.
Is it just me getting older or does anyone else notice the amount of women/ girls at these kind of events whose boobs are almost out?

I'm no prude but really? When did this become so widely appropriate? I'm not talking a bit of cleavage here, I'm talking everything on show, the whole lot out to a millimetre or two from the nipples.

I just wonder why so many girls these days feel the need to do this? Are they insecure about the rest of themselves? Or is it an empowerment thing- that they will know what every male who sees them that night will be thinking?

I for one would prefer not to be confronted by pairs of bare boobs in my face on a night out?
Has anyone else noticed this?

My boobs look miles bigger when covered up. I’m a 28f and they are much more obvious in a T-shirt or high neck jumper. No flesh but much more obvious

Oh right, so all that prevents you from being promiscuous does it? I'm not necessarily saying you are, but if you go out with your boobs very nearly out then that's the message you're sending. Or are you trying to tell me that having your boobs out on show doesn't attract male attention?

OP - you seem obsessed about guarding your H -(the attached men) - from seeing younger women boobs. Despite pretending that it’s all just an observation.
I remember your post about topless colleague of your H, and the issues it caused you.

You either need a bit of help with your insecurities, or else, divorce and/or find someone who won’t make you be on guard all the time.

Having her cleavage on display does not mean she is promiscuous. I can assure you of that, and So what even if she’s promiscuous. She can sleep with who she chooses to sleep with, it’s 2025, not 1925, grow the hell up. Women wanting and having consensual sex is not some gotcha moment as you seem to think, it isn’t some shameful act.

And as for does it attract male attention, yes likely it does, and other women’s attention, and clearly your husbands attention, so what, it’s not her problem.

It’s not her job to dress modestly so your husband or other men do not perv and you don’t get all jealous, insecure and jealous.

Again, as you seem to be having difficulty reading. I mainly dress like this when I attend female only events. There are never any men present. Please explain how that means I’m dressing for male attention?
Also, having cleavage does mean I’m promiscuous. If people want to interpret it that way then that’s on them, not me. I genuinely don’t care what people think. I know I’m not and so does my husband. That’s all that matters.

And so what if I attract male attention? I attract female attention sometimes. So what? 🤷🏼‍♀️

You're 43 though.

This misogynistic view of women is utterly shameful and belongs in a time over a century ago. A woman’s neckline, skirt length or how she chooses to dress does in no way shape nor form indication her sexual history or desires. Christ have we really not moved past the she was asking for it stage, really?

if a woman chooses to have consensual sex with a partner, multiple partners, it is between them, and like men, women can chose to have sex with as many different partners as she wishes. It is not shameful for either gender.

and if a woman chooses to dress in a way that shows her body, then that’s her choice, she may yes get attention, and as long as she in no way feels uncomfortable with that, then it is her choice and nothing to do with anyone else. If she is made to feel uncomfortable then it’s the judgmental fools or the perverts who are making her feel that way. Again she is not the problem.

we are long past the stage of women having to dress modestly or weirdos will think they are promiscuous and promiscuous is a bad thing. Women’s sexual choices, their clothing choices are theirs.

i personally dislike the heavy cleavage look, but simply from an aesthetic perspective, I don’t find it elegant, and i prefer to dress elegantly. But i will wear a close fitting top or dress, which shows my body lines off, and still retains elegance, and I can sssure you men pay attention, even when I’m not doing that. So even though I personally dislike the look. A lot. I will defend any woman’s right to dress like that if it’s her thing.

So?

And? Why does that matter?

@ChessorBuckaroo

lol - do you think 43yo’s are old, shrivelled and not a threat to women with ‘attached’ men?
Or that their boobs are not worthy of male
gaze…. 🤔
Remember Samantha from SATC? She was that age.
just saying

Why do you care if she’s promiscuous, and if she is so what. What on earth does anyone’s sex life have to do with you?

It probably just says that she's got nice boobs.

I really do 😂😂

Sometimes we have no choice. Im busty and high necks just look weird, v necks are usually cut so my cleavage makes an appearance.

Gosh it's fascinating to see such archaic thinking these days.
Women enjoy sex, so if any poster here enjoys lots of lovely consensual sex with lots of different people, good on them.
Women also have boobs, which come in handy for feeding babies and for sexual pleasure along with sometimes causing backache, unwanted comments and difficulties lying on one's front.
Women also often like to dress in a way that enhances their best features, which might be a pert bum, a shapely ankle or god forbid, their cracking boobs.
There is however no correlation between wearing an outfit that highlights said feature and the number of sexual partners a woman might chose to take. Thinking there is would make you as foolish as it would make you a judgemental prick.

A bored incel, perchance?

Could be... 🤔

And I’m 59 and still got great breasts so why shouldn’t I show off my cleavage before if all goes south?

And I’m not interested in male attention, can count my sexual partners on one hand and been single and celibate for nearly 6 years! Not that it would matter if I’d had sex with more men than Bonnie Blue - women are allowed to have body confidence and show off their assets without being judged by the pearl clutchers

I give up on this thread, literally everything I have said has been misrepresented.

I have never said that women can't wear what they like, in fact I've said exactly the opposite.

Christ we've even had an ambulance driver called a misogynist for saying they treat girls who's tits have fallen out!

Like it or not, boobs are sexual. We all know that and so do men.
Now, that's not saying if you go out with them on display you're promiscuous (again not what I said), but lots of men (knowing how they think) probably will think you're that kind of girl - again that may not bother you, it maybe what you want, that's entirely up to you. Don't pretend you don't know it'll happen though and act all pious about it.
Once again, girls can wear what they want, and good on them - my original point was that an increasing number of them seem to be choosing to go out with their boobs as their main focal point - is this really what they want, or is fashion and societal expectations that play a bigger part? If so, that's a shame.

Once again, wear what you want ladies, far better it from me to suggest otherwise - even if you're 43 and still want to show off your spaniels ears, knock yourself out, will probably give the fellas a laugh amongst the hot younger girls 🤣

I’m with you,OP. It is not very classy and to me it strikes of desperation. Definitely wasn’t common in the 70s either.

So from this latest post, women can wear what they want and if they choose to show off some boob, it doesn’t mean that they’re promiscuous. Just that men might think they are. So that’s a man problem really isn’t it.

Really though, and what you are obviously wilfully ignoring, is that it’s a problem for you because you seem to have a deep seated fear that your man is going to be looking at these boobs. This whole thread is because you are insecure about your boobs.

Fuck off with your ‘I’m just being misrepresented’. You know exactly what you are doing.
Little digs like ‘spaniel ears’ just show you for the nasty misogynist that you are.

You clearly don’t believe women can dress any way they want. That is obvious.

You are so obviously intimidated by women who are more confident than you which is a shame.
There is nothing more wonderful and empowering than women supporting other women. Being surrounded by women who want to build up other women rather than tear them down is a beautiful thing. Try it sometime. It’ll change your life.

I’ve thought for many years now that it’s a shame showing one’s cleavage off hasn’t been in fashion for ages. When I was young in the 90s and early 00s it was the wonderbra era and everyone used to wear low cut tops and push up bras. I even did for work and it was perfectly acceptable if I didn’t show too much. As another woman blessed with large boobs it suited me much better than higher cut necklines, which make me look matronly. But at some point cleavage went out and I hardly see any women dressing like that now.

I’m now quite a bit over 43 but my boobs are still perky, thank you, not spaniel ears at all. But I’ve got out of the habit of dressing like that and nobody around me does so I doubt I’ll start again with the low cut tops, more’s the pity. Good luck to any women who want to, though. It’s a very flattering style for many of us.

I’m 35, so not a girl.

I am entirely non male centred, been single 7 years and no plan to get into a relationship or have much to with men romantically at all. I’m not going to wear high necks every single day. Sometimes a bit of cleavage may be visible. I couldn’t care less what men do or don’t think about my appearance, it’s of zero consequence to me. Shocking as you may find this since what men think clearly takes up a lot of your mental energy.