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Boobs in your face!

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YehaaYessir · 11/10/2025 16:01

So I've been to a couple of wedding receptions recently and a formal event for DH's work.
Is it just me getting older or does anyone else notice the amount of women/ girls at these kind of events whose boobs are almost out?

I'm no prude but really? When did this become so widely appropriate? I'm not talking a bit of cleavage here, I'm talking everything on show, the whole lot out to a millimetre or two from the nipples.

I just wonder why so many girls these days feel the need to do this? Are they insecure about the rest of themselves? Or is it an empowerment thing- that they will know what every male who sees them that night will be thinking?

I for one would prefer not to be confronted by pairs of bare boobs in my face on a night out?
Has anyone else noticed this?

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ExposedCankles · 13/10/2025 18:40

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 18:27

I said that I would never say anything to anyone dressed like that. I'm not aware of any way that I've tried to control other people's clothing choices, given that I say nothing and don't give any looks or anything, as I wrote upthread.

I said that I have my private opinion about it, but I keep it private. I said they are free to dress how they want, and I am free to have an inside opinion about it. Not sure how that's trying to control others' clothing choices, but OK.

You’re not keeping it private. You’re saying it loud and clear on here, and when people say offensive things then they are rightfully called out. Do you not call people out when they say offensive things?

PinkArt · 13/10/2025 18:53

YehaaYessir · 13/10/2025 18:25

That's not allowed! The thought police will be along shortly to tell you off and call you a misogynist.😜

People are calling you misogynistic because you keep saying misogynistic things. Calling people the thought police for this is just silly.

thepariscrimefiles · 13/10/2025 18:53

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 16:25

I hate when other women serve their boobs up on a platter to be stared at by my man. I do, and so do many women. It's natural to feel that way.

Not sure where you got the idea that I think women who are not stunningly beautiful should hide their bodies. I don't want ANY woman flaunting her bust at my partner. I was responding to the poster that talked about insecurities and said that someone will always be better-looking than you, etc. and I said that I don't mind beautiful women around my partner, it's the bared breasts that I don't like.

I think you've got it all the wrong way round. Showing off a lot of boobage is the really unsisterly thing to do. Mine are pretty nice, and I would never do that to another woman. It's basic manners and respect.

Honestly if 'your man' can't stop staring at other women's boobs, he should be the one staying at home, not the women he is staring at. This is women policing what other women wear because they don't trust their husbands/partners.

Talking about women who 'serve their boobs up on a platter' absolutely reeks of misogyny and jealousy.

PlanetMa · 13/10/2025 18:57

YehaaYessir · 13/10/2025 18:25

That's not allowed! The thought police will be along shortly to tell you off and call you a misogynist.😜

Of course it’s allowed for that poster to decide not to engage in such a discussion. It’s unsurprising that she’s doing so given the misogyny and irrationality of her “views” on this have been called out and she has no answer.

You’re the one who keeps starting threads about the topic, so you can hardly complain that other people are responding. Are you now trying to claim we’re forcing you to discuss the topic even though you started these threads, just like you claimed women were forcing your husband to ogle them?

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 18:58

YehaaYessir · 13/10/2025 18:25

That's not allowed! The thought police will be along shortly to tell you off and call you a misogynist.😜

You need to read @CrystalShoe views
on spelling. Apparently she is here to educate us all 😆

thepariscrimefiles · 13/10/2025 18:59

YehaaYessir · 13/10/2025 17:13

This is exactly it. Of course girls can wear what they like, but like it or not, boobs are very sexual things.
If you have your bare boobs almost out then it's bound to be interpreted in this context.
It's like getting your chuff out and masturbating on a dancefloor and blaming men who notice as being creepy.
Put em away luv!

You are quite disturbed! As if showing a bit of cleavage is the same as a woman openly masturbating on a dancefloor (which I'm sure never happens anyway). You and your fellow puritan sounds deeply fucked up about other women's bodies which are none of your business.

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:00

I still feel A bit nauseous from @CrystalShoe ”my man” comment

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 13/10/2025 19:12

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 17:56

Doesn't everyone just state their opinion? Must we always preface with IMHO? I thought it was obvious that this is my opinion.

Slut-shaming is shaming someone for having lots of partners, but I don't care how many someone has, assuming all things are equal (no cheating, coercing, etc.)

The dress thing is about manners and respect for others.

No it isn’t, it’s criticising an individual’s behaviour in relation to sexuality. It doesn’t necessarily mean number of sexual partners

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 13/10/2025 19:21

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 17:52

How do you know they're not? And anyway, I'm not sure that they seriously want to seduce anybody or steal anybody, they're just being attention-seeking. And people generally don't like attention-seekers, whether it's showing off your boobs too much in in appropriate settings or dominating the conversation.

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I’m not. And neither are my friends, particularly my lesbian friends!
And I’m also not an attention seeker. I just like to dress a particular way every now and then.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 13/10/2025 19:23

YehaaYessir · 13/10/2025 17:59

Wouldn't that be a you problem for noticing? It's only a fanny after all, we've all got one.

You need help. Seriously.

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:26

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 13/10/2025 19:23

You need help. Seriously.

Read the search history of this loon, @YehaaYessir

It makes for one heck of a weird read

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 13/10/2025 19:28

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:26

Read the search history of this loon, @YehaaYessir

It makes for one heck of a weird read

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I’m not sure I have the stomach 🤢

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:29

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 13/10/2025 19:28

I’m not sure I have the stomach 🤢

It’s all on this theme

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:31

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:00

I still feel A bit nauseous from @CrystalShoe ”my man” comment

Sorry. I usually call him my boo.

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:31

Example of a past thread from this op.

would you let your dh socialise with topless woman on a beach?

this op @YehaaYessir has very serious husband issues

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:32

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:31

Sorry. I usually call him my boo.

Oh you don’t have a man or a boo or any one, and you know it!

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:39

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:32

Oh you don’t have a man or a boo or any one, and you know it!

Well, technically I have a husband and a boyfriend. 🤭🤭🤭 It's not a situation I ever thought I'd find myself in, and it's not how it sounds. Separated for eight years - it's complicated; he lives abroad - boo (bf) is casual. Technically been married 19 years, but considering I didn't get my visa for a year and we split 8 years ago...anyway, we certainly didn't live together for 19 years. It's complicated. Divorce will be next year now that my caregiving is over. I'm 51 and it's been...yeah. Complicated, like things often are in middle age.

I guess you could say I have boo-boos. Two boos! 🤭😂

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:40

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:39

Well, technically I have a husband and a boyfriend. 🤭🤭🤭 It's not a situation I ever thought I'd find myself in, and it's not how it sounds. Separated for eight years - it's complicated; he lives abroad - boo (bf) is casual. Technically been married 19 years, but considering I didn't get my visa for a year and we split 8 years ago...anyway, we certainly didn't live together for 19 years. It's complicated. Divorce will be next year now that my caregiving is over. I'm 51 and it's been...yeah. Complicated, like things often are in middle age.

I guess you could say I have boo-boos. Two boos! 🤭😂

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Or none

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:41

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:40

Or none

If it makes you feel better, sure!

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:45

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:32

Oh you don’t have a man or a boo or any one, and you know it!

Why would you say this? Are you insulting someone for being (potentially) single? Have we not moved on from thinking that women must have a man to validate them? How misogynist! And thanks for insulting single women everywhere! I count myself as single even though I'm technically not.

I find it deeply concerning that you think a woman's single status is something to throw in her face.

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:50

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:45

Why would you say this? Are you insulting someone for being (potentially) single? Have we not moved on from thinking that women must have a man to validate them? How misogynist! And thanks for insulting single women everywhere! I count myself as single even though I'm technically not.

I find it deeply concerning that you think a woman's single status is something to throw in her face.

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I think you come across on this thread as deeply unpleasant so 🤷‍♀️ so can’t say too fafffed what you think.

I am single by the way.

”my man” 🤢

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:51

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:45

Why would you say this? Are you insulting someone for being (potentially) single? Have we not moved on from thinking that women must have a man to validate them? How misogynist! And thanks for insulting single women everywhere! I count myself as single even though I'm technically not.

I find it deeply concerning that you think a woman's single status is something to throw in her face.

Edited

I don’t imagine you have any friends either! Male female canine!

I am single. No “my man” for me! 😆

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:53

I take it you wfh @CrystalShoe ? As you started your shift a couple of hours ago and haven’t been off the thread since!

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:57

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:50

I think you come across on this thread as deeply unpleasant so 🤷‍♀️ so can’t say too fafffed what you think.

I am single by the way.

”my man” 🤢

Edited

It's not "my man"! It's "my BOO"!

Sorry you think I sound unpleasant. I think you sound lovely! 😂😂😂😂

CrystalShoe · 13/10/2025 19:58

Roundlucy · 13/10/2025 19:53

I take it you wfh @CrystalShoe ? As you started your shift a couple of hours ago and haven’t been off the thread since!

MYOB.

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