To feel insulted or not?

[Blueberrybrie007]

My parents have talked about their will recently. I would rather they didn't, as I don't want to think about that time and hope it's many years down the line.

They have said they plan to leave the majority to the grandchildren. I have one surviving child and my brother has five children. My brother doesn't bother with us and hasn't for a very long time. I see my parents regularly.

Their estate is approx £1.1m and they said they plan to leave me and my brother £30k each out if that, with the rest going to the grandchildren.

I think it's lovely as some of the grandchildren are getting older, so it will help them get their first property or definitely give them a good start in life.
I still have a mortgage on my house, but the grandchildren will not necessarily need to have that worry as such.

Their friends are aware of it and so part of me is unsure how they'll perceive it. Was I not good enough in their opinion and so they've decided to skip passing it on to their own children, who in turn would pass it on to our children when we die.

I know friends of mine, their parents have left their inheritance to them, their own children. And so this has left me feeling confused at the moment and questioning if they don't think I'm worthy of it.

I hold down a full time professional job, work hard for what I have and don't go out pissing it up the wall.

I get your feelings OP. My parents had everything split 50/50 with me and my sibling. My mum died and my dad redid his will leaving 50% to my sibling and halfing my share to 25%, with 25% going to my child (the only grandchild). Initially I was upset. But I’m comfortably off, mortgage free and I despise my dad. So I can now abdicate any obligation to look after him in his dotage. Money and inheritance can bring out the worst in all parties. I want no part in any of it.

Your parents can do whatever they like with their will. I wonder if you'd feel differently if you had the greater number of children?

In many parts of this country c.£173k would not get a house mortgage free so the comment that the grandchildren won't have the worry of a mortgage is not very realistic.

For context my mother is recently deceased and I am sad she didn't spend more money on herself. My father is splitting his estate to grandchildren only and myself and my sisters get nothing. I'm not angry as it's his choice at the end of the day and realistically the next generation will need a lot more help to get on the ladder as wages are not keeping up with house prices

I would be really disappointed too. I’m the sibling with the most DC and I think the equal split to DGC is really unfair for the DC.