I can't get over the fact dh has been so dishonest.

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I'll start by saying this has nothing to do with infidelity.

We've been saying for a while that we could do with being more for health reasons. Dh had been going for runs occasionally, I'd been been having peri symptoms like stiffness and weight gain .
We'd talked in conversation about taking part in a run , like a marathon, and how it's a bucket list thing. I was saying I'd consider , to accomplish it .

One night , I think it was my idea , to register with the organiser so we can sign up for a race in the not too distant future. I signed up , but dh hadn't got a email verification. Anyway, it was only days later that he got a race pack in the post from the same organiser. Turns out he'd already signed up to do a 10k and not told anyone. I'm not sure he would have told me if I hadn't seen his race pack . He said he didn't want to say anything in case he didn't achieve it . I feel betrayed because I’d asked specific questions about his running and the answers he gave me were lies . He has been doing it behind my back . I feel like I've been taken for a fool , like I was stupid when I was talking about running. I was proud of my very short runs .

It's been a good few weeks . We discussed it at the time, and I spoke again about how upset I was . I'm still not any less upset and angry about it .

I just wanted to get it all off my chest.

Yeah, I'm kind of torn too, nothing wrong with him wanting to have some of his own space and privacy around his progress of course but I would be annoyed about the bare faced lying to my face as well in OPs shoes. He could have just told her he didn't want to discuss it until he was more in to it or had progressed a bit more. There were better ways than to just outright lie imo

I can see why you’re upset, but I do think a tiny bit of an overreaction.

very strange thing to lie about though. I can’t work out why he would feel the need to lie about something like that.

Could he be running with someone else (female)?

I don’t want to turn the thread into a cheating thread because obviously this is probably barking up the wrong tree, but to suddenly start running and looking after himself and to hide it from you is really odd.

I was being facetious.

Is it that you don’t like him improving himself or he doesn’t like you improving yourself

Or he's using his lunch break and having no impact on her at all. The OP really hadn't given enough details for your post. Maybe the husband is home at 6pm on the dot every evening and the OP is playing the martyr...

You don't want to turn this thread into a cheating thread yet you do exactly that.
The OP also suddenly started running and trying to look after herself better, does that also mean she is cheating?

Doesn't really work online.

I feel like he signed up and was a bit reticent to tell anyone in case he didn’t complete it and then you asked him to sign up to another run and waxed lyrical about it being a fun activity to do together, your first run being as a couple or just getting excited about sharing the experience and then he felt bad he had already signed up to another run and just buried his head in the sand over it.

I don’t really see it as lying but just him reacting to something he feels a bit shy or embarrassed about. I would let him off the hook and sign yourself up for the run he’s entered and make the best of it. It’s not always easy to have conversations with your partner that might upset them and I don’t think this was something where he set out to be deceptive and lie to you or hide anything!