Husband left me due to his mental health

[Woos0093]

I’m looking for advice, me and my husband have a 3 month old baby and last week he decided to leave me. He’s saying nothings my fault and he just wants to be alone because he is in a black hole. He’s saying he’s no good for me and has failed us, and can’t be in a relationship because he can’t love or be loved right now. I’ve tried to be supportive and stand by him but he keeps pushing me away and keeps saying he needs to be alone but still wants to help in anyway he can with the baby. Alone for how long? Do I wait for him? Do I continue offering my support when he clearly doesn’t want it? I can’t see my life without him and it’s killing me and I don’t know what to do.

I am just stumbled along this thread and caught up.
I am so sorry.
please please get your ducks in a row , thank god you have you mum with you.
did the lair actually grow a pair and tell you?

Is it the woman you suspected ?
he’s a walking cliche, absolute arsehole

So sorry, OP. I hope you have people around who can support you.

I'm so sorry. What an absolutely despicable bastard he is.

So sorry to hear that, OP. Becoming a father certainly sorts the men from the boys. Your ex is clearly still a boy. What real life support have you got?

I’m so sorry this happened to you ❤️ please accept all the support you can for yourself and your baby! Do not hide his dirty secret, tell the world, cry, accept hugs and heal. What a shit hiding behind MH when he was cheating all along! Xx

I'm sorry to hear your update. What a lying bastard. I wish you all the best.

I’m so sorry @Woos0093 sending you a huge hug.

They are all bloody cowards aren’t they - hiding behind fake MH problems, acting like the victim. When they should just have the bravery to admit the truth.

He doesn’t deserve you or the baby.

God they’re so cliche. I am so sorry OP. I hope you’re going to be ok? Support around you? He’s a disgusting excuse of a man. His behaviour and choices IS NOT YOUR FAULT. And repeat.

I’m so sorry, OP. How awful. An affair at any time is disgusting, but to have one when you’re in the throes of new motherhood, recovering from pregnancy, your body doesn’t feel your own, you’re sleep-deprived, and giving your all to this tiny little human is just awful.

I’m so sorry he’s done this to you. Bastard.

I'm wary of the timing of this and I wonder if he's going to try to make it all your fault. That you were wrapped up in the baby and he was lonely, that you didn't want sex in the later stages of pregnancy, that...whatever.

The first sniff of him trying to say that you 'made him do it' I hope you'll tell him exactly where to go - and what to do when he gets there.

I am so sorry @Woos0093. He’s an utter waste of space, so pathetic and predictable. Stupid little man child.

Ypu will find a new normal with your little one away from this idiot!

I’m so sorry that your faithless H has inflicted this pain, @Woos0093. He is ‘that guy’ - the kind of loser who is happy to cheat on his Wife and newborn. He was likely at it while you were pregnant, putting your and the baby’s health at risk. What a pathetic, morally bankrupt prize OW has ‘won’.

It sounds like you have a loving support system which will be a godsend. Consider accessing IC to help you move through the grieving process

Re your lying, self-serving H, I suggest that you gray rock him as much as possible. He is not your friend and is a terrible role model for your child. Focus on enjoying your little angel and building a wonderful life with him.

What despicable behaviour. If my son behaved like this I’d be so angry with him. He has a wife and newborn baby who should have been his total priority. I’m so sorry OP. You don’t deserve this. I hope financially you will be okay.

Another pathetic, selfish, weak willed apology of a man. It’s so depressing. The OW deserves no sympathy, but she has won nothing. He will treat her just as badly, which is exactly what she deserves. You and your baby are better off without this shit stain. You deserve so much better x

What an absolute wanker. It probably doesn’t feel like it right now, but you are better off knowing the truth now and making sure he never tries to grovel his way back to you. If he can do this when you are at your most vulnerable, he would do it again.

I hope everyone finds out what scum he is.

Look after yourself and focus on just you and your baby x