I'm unsure what to label this as or do. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years we dont live together unmarried and no kids together. He has one adult child of 21 who has kids of her own, I have two pre teen children.
He's actually exhausting me right now but I dont know if im feeding it or causing it.
He doesn't listen to me when I want to talk, even about random things like my interests yet he expects me to listen to him. He talks constantly about anything and everything even narrating what he's scrolling on Facebook. I can't even tune it out because he expects me to acknowledge him regularly like that sounds good. Oh wow interesting etc. Or he gets moody. Last night he gave me a literal migraine just talking and when I said I was in pain he huffed and told me im always ill.
He is generally moody too. He has huge opinions about my parenting and criticises me. Like I asked him for help cooking one night because I had a late work meeting. All night was horrible text after another about how he's never doing it again and the kids won't eat etc. I told him if they won't eat to leave it he didn't need to get so mean. (He was fine with the kids it was just me he vented to.)
He's doing it now because I made a decision that he doesn't agree with.
If he ever spends money on me or us. On the very rare occasion. He gets really angry the next month saying hes broke and this is why we dont do anything. I don't even remember him buying me a meaningful gift even at Xmas, he always makes a huge show of being broke and I just say its fine leave it.
He has regular black moods where he's just in another world. Depressed, nasty and spiteful and nothing helps. But the all at once he's fine again. This usually happens once a week if he has a lot on at work.
I'm actually at the point I want to walk away while we have no ties financial or otherwise. Can anyone offer any insight into his behaviour I want to make a last ditch save effort on the relationship. Why does he do these things?