I got divorced 3 years ago, from what I now understand was a very emotionally abusive relationship. I've done a lot of work on myself, had 60 hours of counselling so far and finally started rebuilding hobbies for myself too.
At one of those hobbies, I've become friends with a lovely man who's always kind and respectful, shows an interest in what I have to say, is supportive etc. He's been a good example that men aren't all like my ex!
I've started to get feelings for him which I haven't acted on as I don't think I'm ready yet anyway, but also... he's 17 years older than me. I'm 39, he's 56. Most of the time I don't think this bothers me, as after the experiences I've had in the past, it being the right person is much more important to me than age. BUT my friend pointed out some logistics like how much earlier he'll retire than me, and questioned whether I'd be better waiting to meet someone closer in age. This is one of the first men I've met outside my marriage and passing acquaintances. (FWIW this man and I both DC already so no issues there)
What do you all think? Any wise guidance?? 🌷