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So DS is 2 now and ive been slowly sorting through the baby bits, bags of sleepsuits and vests etc. Id planned to keep a few special things in a memory box and then pass the rest to my SIL who’s expecting her first.
Yesterday DH casually mentions he “dropped a bag off” at his ex’s because “she needed stuff for her niece’s baby.” Turns out it was one of the bags from our loft, full of DS’s clothes. He didn’t ask, didn’t check with me, just decided they’d be better off there.
I know it’s only clothes and we aren’t using them, but a) they were ours to decide about, and b) his ex isn’t exactly short of money (she posts designer hauls on Insta every other week). And it really stung that he didn’t think to ask if I minded.
The weird bit is… he left behind the bag with all the stained bibs and grotty socks, but gave away the nice babygros and the Boden dungarees my mum bought. Like… why those ones?? He even put the little cardigan my nan knitted in there, which I’d said I wanted to keep.
What makes it stranger is that we’ve argued before about him being too “helpful” to his ex. Nothing dodgy, but he still does favours for her like fixing her boiler or dropping shopping round. I’ve let it go because I don’t want to seem insecure, but this feels like a boundary thing.
I said to him that it feels disrespectful, especially when I’d told him before that SIL would love them. He reckons I’m making a fuss over nothing and it’s just hand-me-downs.
So now I don’t know if I’m being petty. It’s not like I can demand them back, but I’m really annoyed and it’s left me wondering if I should be firmer about him running round after her.
Am I being unreasonable?