Anyone awake?

[Littlemess]

Could use someone to chat to

I’m sure he doesn’t mean it. But he’s very short with me. I find myself avoiding him more and more. I genuinely feel like leaving now whilst he’s sleeping but I have nowhere to go

And this is his mood without the situation I’ve created. Holiday is less than a week away. I don’t know how to fix this

Please call womens aid, now - tonight.
You deserve more than this and you deserve their help.
You'll be ok, just get out.

This isn’t his fault it’s mines

If i told my partner id been scammed, he'd be annoyed FOR me not AT me, cos he's my team mate, cos he loves and supports me and we get through shit together.
Hes great- but he's not outside of the norm.
My relationship is totally normal, anything less is not ok.
You deserve better.

Why are you scared of him?

I’m not scared of him. I’m scared of what u have done to us

I sorry, not u

You don't sound like an equal with this man. Are you being blamed for things and you take total responsibility when they muck up in the relationship or family? And why are you being " blamed"? And now you are stressed because it is something else to blame you for? Are you being made to " take responsibility " for everything he does or wants you to do? (Sorry I believe everything you are saying I just want to get to the root of it.) Have you a problem with yourself you are afraid to chat about.

Everyone makes mistakes, OP, and scams are so very sophisticated.

A loving partner might be disappointed at not going on holiday, but would help you fix the situation and certainly not expect you to feel like you have somehow wrecked the relationship!

This is pretty accurate. Everything is my fault. If the door isn’t locked, the washing machine breaks, the rain came earlier than I read from the weather app. It’s all my fault. He’s just old and grumpy and I’m quite annoying. I talk to much. I would be fed up with me sometimes

He sounds insufferable!

This scam might be a blessing in disguise, if you allow it to be.

What is your housing situation?

If I go I would leave with nothing

You are not to blame. Some questions...are you meek and rarely respond or do you shout back at him ?

I would never shout at him. I just stay quiet

Do you alter your life or activities all of the time to keep the peace?

Yeah

Does he alter his life or activities for you? For example mind the dog, make a meal, buy groceries, pick up prescriptions for you.

Do you have work, interests, goals, dreams?

You deserve to explore what you want from this life, free from constant criticism.

Nope

I work and mind the house

Too old for dreams.

Well the bank are not able to just wash their hands of it so I am sure that they will be able to help you. And I am sure that if you are vulnerable, as you suggest you are, then there are other avenues. Good luck.

Call the mental health help line !

How did the financial troubles occur? Business, unemployment, big loans, or something different