Hi all.
i posted last night about a situation with my husband. Basically splitting after alcohol abuse, using escorts and being vile to me. This is all escalating very quickly. I took advice and started to grey rock him, giving polite but non engaging answers. He has spent the day belittling me and being nasty and calling me names in front of the kids. I’ve tried not to escalate it and keep it all happy for the kids but it’s impossible. He is even being horrible to them now.
Ive just had my son in crying his eyes out over why we argue so much (i dont argue i just try to pacify). I’ve tried to reassure him and comfort him but I can’t control my husbands behaviour. He was also sat downstairs earlier, messaging loads of women to meet and have sex with.
I’ve gone down after the kids went to sleep to try to make some peace and begged him to just be nice to me in front of them. He basically told me to fuck off and he doesn’t care, He is sat with bottles all around him, looking as pale as a ghost, been drinking from 11am.
I really need him to leave as this is so damaging to the children. However he hasn’t done anything that I could say to police or whatever that’s bad enough as he is so subtle in how he operates.
I was ok but now I’ve seen my son like this I’m utterly heartbroken. What can I do? I’m happy for him to see other women as long as he stops this in front of the children. It feels so damaging and I can’t do anything about it. Any advice please?