New partner on 3rd date asking to watch porn together

[Poppyseeed]

Wondering what others would think

We went back to their place and they asked if I wanted to watch porn with them. It’s only our 3rd date.

would this concern you

Yup. Yuck. Each to their own, but that would be it for me.

Bye Felicia.

Yuk.

There wouldn't be a fourth date, believe you me.

It likely concerns you otherwise you would not be asking.

This is not usual behaviour for a date. I'd be looking to end this now and there would not be a 4th date.

It wouldn’t concern me. I’d just be happy they’d informed me early on, who they are. Then I could say Goodbye. 👋

I would leave and not return

christ on a bike, that’s grim.
I’d have got up and left tbh.

No, ew.
(I mean it would be a no to him, not it wouldn’t concern me)

After 3 dates they are not a partner, they are someone you are dating casually.

Did it concern you? It doesn’t matter what others think is ok or not. If your uncomfortable or put off that’s all that counts but equally if you are happy to watch porn together then that’s your decision and shouldn’t be swayed by others

Ugh throw him in the bin.

Leave all of the bastards.

Thanks for your responses. This happened to me they came back to my place but I don’t own any porn she said her ex husband watched a lot of porn and assumed it’s normal to ask.

I thought it’s a bit early in our dating to discuss any type of porn as we hadn’t slept together.

Was it Travis Bickle? He sounds like he has limited social skills and doesn't understand appropriate behaviour.

I'd be out of there like a shot. That's grim for a third date.

This and no, after 3 dates this would be an odd suggestion

I don’t know her very well, it was a bit of a surprise. It’s not a normal conversation for a new potential relationship. Maybe she was trying to see if si own porn. But it’s a bit sudden to ask these questions, what do you think?

Run for the hills, he’s disgusting.

He's a she, I think.

To clarify OP, are you male or female? I think the person who asked to watch porn with you is female, right? So she wanted to have sex, watching porn?

does it matter or make any difference?

Not really - but everyone has assumed the person asking was a man (which I don't think it is) so I was clarifying.

It sounded as if she was scoping out what you want. I think you say what you feel at that point. It’s not something I’d want to do for a range of reasons, and all the more so if the person has been in a relationship where this is normal - there’s going to be a lot to unpick if this is what her sex life has been. But maybe go gently - ‘that’s not what I usually do or want. What does it do for you?’ Something like that.

Yeah she came back to my flat and started asking about watching porn. I’ve spoken to her since and she said she was wanting to know if I had any. But to me she’s back tracking as that’s a not a question to ask on a third date you’ve only been in my flat 30 minutes.