New partner on 3rd date asking to watch porn together

[Poppyseeed]

Wondering what others would think

We went back to their place and they asked if I wanted to watch porn with them. It’s only our 3rd date.

would this concern you

Grim

It sounds like she was making a bit of a joke? I think you’re overthinking this one. What are your real concerns with her?

I don't care what sex they are. Ewwww.

Do you watch it together now? Has she asked again since?
Maybe she was trying to see if you watch it. Who knows, why dont you ask her.

I wouldn't want either of you. Porn might be common but it isn't "normal".

Well you’re still dating her so it obviously didn’t bother you that much

Good of them to let you know early on what they like sexually. Now you know you have the option to walk away, unless you like this stuff too?

IMO this isn't really about it being the third date. You consider yourself a "normal bloke" which to you means you watch porn, but you are aghast that a woman wanted to watch it, because "normal" women shouldn't. It's just a garden variety double standard. Watching porn encourages and reinforces sexist double standards like that. It brainwashes you into seeing female sexuality as dirty and slutty. If you keep watching, before you know it you won't be able to get it up for "normal" women, it will have to be someone you consider a slut.

Do people still “own” porn any more… Isn’t most of it streamed. Gone are the days of having a stack of dirty magazines and a x-rated video collection… that’s so 20th century!

Hell to the no!!

My view, dodgy. Walk backwards slowly and don't blink 👀😳

Did they think you are just a casual hook up? I'd dump them.

Did she say ‘where’s your porn collection then?’ Nudge nudge.
Maybe she was asking in the hope that you’d say you don’t watch porn.
Maybe she was asking because she wanted to get foxy on you.
We don’t know! Why don’t you ask her? 🤷‍♀️

If this person's asking about porn on the third date, what is she going to ask for after the third week, third month etc? Sounds weird to me!?

If you're posting on Mumsnet rather than saying an enthusiastic yes it means this gives you the ick, so throw this one back in the sea and count yourself lucky it was only three dates.

Too much too soon!

I have a friend whose date tried anal by the 3rd date! Some have noooooo clue or are just too absorbed with their own pleasures.

You barely know each other and he’s already wanting involving you in his sordid sex life.

You say ‘GOODBYE’ very loudly and be on your way.

You say that you and she have been together for a while now, so you are looking back on your early dates.

How long have you been together now? I find it weird that you’re still thinking back to something early on in the relationship which you were obviously able to get past at the time as you have continued the relationship. If it is still bothering you even though you have now been together for a while, maybe this isn’t the right relationship for you. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wouldn't be going back for a fourth date.

It’s also odd that in one post you say ‘I’ve spoken to her since’ [the date where she asked about porn] and in another post you say ‘we’ve been together a while now’

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Huge red flag!!!!!!

Ugrrgh

I’d run a mile

Maybe she has really ugly, massive feet with fallen arches and merely wanted an early steer on whether you’re a foot fetishist with a deep lust for dainty feet in towering high heels. .

He's not your partner it's only been 3 dates.

What a creep !!

For me that's a bit early. I don't mind them watching porn, but it would seem to be him enticing you into something if he wants to watch together. Literally just been shown a DP's porn and we've been together 14 months, but more to see his interests as porn doesn't do it for me