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Ryeman · 20/07/2025 08:22

Going against the grain but I don’t think using an old picture is really that bad. It’s still them, so not a lie as such. Plus some men may not realise how much they’ve changed?

JeremiahBullfrog · 20/07/2025 08:22

I'm finding as you get older you aren't in as many photos and it's increasingly difficult to find good ones for that reason alone. But ten years back is going a bit far! That said, my Facebook cover pic is now pushing 7 years old and I'm not sure (vainly??) you can tell the difference.

prelovedusername · 20/07/2025 08:25

Ryeman · 20/07/2025 08:22

Going against the grain but I don’t think using an old picture is really that bad. It’s still them, so not a lie as such. Plus some men may not realise how much they’ve changed?

I don’t think the Games Maker photo mentioned above would be a problem for me. It clearly shows when it was taken so no deception, it shows the guy is active and interested in getting involved, would give you a vague idea of looks even if the current version was a bit different. I think that’s ok actually.

AngelinaFibres · 20/07/2025 08:25

Lazyjunedays · 20/07/2025 08:07

Hmm, I've checked my dating profile and there is a photo from six years ago. It is more a landscape shot with my back to the camera. Do I need to get rid? 😳

If the photo gives the impression that you are a lot slimmer than you are in reality then , yes you should absolutely get rid of it. If you were tall and slim and fit then but are bigger now and bad knees mean you don't stand on hills looking at majestic views anymore then you are misrepresenting yourself

madaboutpurple · 20/07/2025 08:26

My advice is try to meet men at places like a pub quiz team ,meet them in real life then you have the chance of getting to know them a little.I have heard a lot of similar stories from dating apps.

PopeJoan2 · 20/07/2025 08:31

What these posts tell me is that men are just as insecure about ageing as many women are. It also demonstrates why and that they - like many women - feel invisible and overlooked as they age.

otoh maybe they’re just going after younger women.

Bikergran · 20/07/2025 08:32

Some years ago a friend who was trying out online dating told me that in general a lot of older men's photos were dreadful, some were obviously their wedding photos with partner cut off, or they were out of focus and blurry, and yes, very often years and several stone out of date!!! Perhaps, like kidnap victims, you should demand a new photo holding up today's newspaper before agreeing to meet. 😉

Bikergran · 20/07/2025 08:34

JeremiahBullfrog · 20/07/2025 08:22

I'm finding as you get older you aren't in as many photos and it's increasingly difficult to find good ones for that reason alone. But ten years back is going a bit far! That said, my Facebook cover pic is now pushing 7 years old and I'm not sure (vainly??) you can tell the difference.

Good grief!! We ALL carry cameras round in our phones now, you don't have to go to a studio like in 1909. Get a mate to do some pics if you're not good with selfies. There's no excuse.

50scontentment · 20/07/2025 08:35

Don't you have a video call beforehand? It's the best way to verify someone is up to date photos. It's not just men who do this.

EBearhug · 20/07/2025 08:36

JeremiahBullfrog · 20/07/2025 08:22

I'm finding as you get older you aren't in as many photos and it's increasingly difficult to find good ones for that reason alone. But ten years back is going a bit far! That said, my Facebook cover pic is now pushing 7 years old and I'm not sure (vainly??) you can tell the difference.

But you don't need 500 photos, only 2 or 3, and you can take selfies - which is better than using a group photo where you could be any of them.

I think one old photo in a selection is probably okay, but usually, they're all old if one is.

TwistedWonder · 20/07/2025 08:36

Bikergran · 20/07/2025 08:32

Some years ago a friend who was trying out online dating told me that in general a lot of older men's photos were dreadful, some were obviously their wedding photos with partner cut off, or they were out of focus and blurry, and yes, very often years and several stone out of date!!! Perhaps, like kidnap victims, you should demand a new photo holding up today's newspaper before agreeing to meet. 😉

My experience of OLD is a lot of men have only one photo and it’s often a blurry too close up mirror selfie with half their face obscured by their phone and appears to have Benn taken in a public toilet.

Or it’s an action shot of them partaking in their hobby usually running, cycling, paddle boarding etc and at such a distance only a hawk with binoculars could see what they look like.

TwistedWonder · 20/07/2025 08:38

Bikergran · 20/07/2025 08:34

Good grief!! We ALL carry cameras round in our phones now, you don't have to go to a studio like in 1909. Get a mate to do some pics if you're not good with selfies. There's no excuse.

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Agreed. Dont these people go on holiday, have nights out with friends etc? That’s when most people get their photo taken surely

Lovelynames123 · 20/07/2025 08:45

I met a guy who said he was 48, when we met he was obviously older and admitted straightaway he was 53, and shorter than he'd said. He said he couldn't figure how to change his age but they blatantly do it to get through your filters.

All my photos are selfies taken within the last year, no filter. What's the point in lying when you'll be found out immediately you meet?!

Horses7 · 20/07/2025 08:47

It’s a minefield but don’t let it out you off - not all men are lying gits!

80smonster · 20/07/2025 08:49

I reckon message saying ‘Nice to meet for coffee, just in the interests of you not wasting your or anyone else’s time, your photo needs updating asap. Wish you well with future matches.’

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BeMellowAquaSquid · 20/07/2025 09:00

My husband and I met on an app 12 years ago I was chatting to so many people I’d cut and paste my chats. When we agreed to meet I’d given up meeting the one, I was just enjoying meeting loads of new people going out having dinners and having a good time. When we met I walked into a pub looking for him only to find someone similar, he’d been using photos about 8 years old. We still hit it off immediately and laugh about it now, he also said he was 6’ 2” and 14 stone but he must have had fat thumbs when filling in his profile. Also listed a number of sports he liked and I was only to find he was an arm chair spectator not interested in sports at all. I think looking back dating on an app is so shallow I don’t think I’d consider it again if I was single. I dread to think how many men looked at my profile and thought euuuuuuuurrrrgh as I’m not photogenic at all.

Flatbellyfella · 20/07/2025 09:06

Born in 1947 so 78 years old ( feel younger) five foot ten & a half (halves are important it seems), blue eyes, own silver hair & teeth, west country accent , member of MN. How would this go down on an OLD site? 🫣 by the way, never been on one.

dudsville · 20/07/2025 09:06

I had this one back when I was dating. Not only did the guy use an old pic, it was a cropped pic from his previous wedding! I only know this because he told me. What a fool he was.

MyDadWasAnArse · 20/07/2025 09:10

Only this week a friend was swiped on by someone using the photo of that baker guy, Paul Hollywood.

snowmichael · 20/07/2025 09:12

PoliteEagle · 19/07/2025 23:21

How common is that? Matched on an app, went for a coffee date. When I arrived I immediately noticed that a guy looks older and much less fit than his pics (fit in pics and overweight in real life) So annoyed. Before the meeting he also gave me a link to his linkedin and his pic there is also at least 10yo.
First time happened to me. People usually do upload flattering pics but this is outright lie.

Very common
I would say about half of my friends (both male and female) have had that experience

Cherrysoup · 20/07/2025 09:17

Never been on a dating app, but re old photos, when I renewed my driving licence, I wasn’t asked for an updated photos, so they kept the really old one which is fab! I’m dreading renewing my passport next year which has the same pic!

knackredd · 20/07/2025 09:20

Flatbellyfella · 20/07/2025 09:06

Born in 1947 so 78 years old ( feel younger) five foot ten & a half (halves are important it seems), blue eyes, own silver hair & teeth, west country accent , member of MN. How would this go down on an OLD site? 🫣 by the way, never been on one.

Does your user name help the profile?

Sera1989 · 20/07/2025 09:34

It’s very common on dating apps. Men use their “best picture(s)” and somehow don’t seem to realise they don’t look the same as they did several years ago! I learnt the hard way never to go on a date with a guy who only has one photo and to always imagine that the man looks like the “worst” pic from their set of photos. If I go back on an app I will ask everyone for the most recent photo in their camera roll!

GrandmasCat · 20/07/2025 09:54

It is incredibly common, I have heard more men complaining of their date’s mum showing up to the date rather than the other way around, though…

Everybody puts their best photos in their profiles so the closer photo to reality is normally the worst one in the profile or something a little bit worse. Having said that, I have met guys who looked not really good in their profile but once in person they were very fit or had one of those smiles that make the world look like a nicer place…

I met someone recently that looked about 20 year older than he was, but decided to ignore it as I didn’t agree to meet him for his appearance. We didn’t have more dates but stayed in touch as I enjoyed the conversations.

At this moment I am talking to someone who looks gorgeous in his profile photo, which is the same as in his WhatsApp. If he invites me out, I am planning to ask him how old the photo is, if he looks that good at his age, I’m not going… he is way out of my league!