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Went on a date today and found out he used 10yo pic

110 replies

PoliteEagle · 19/07/2025 23:21

How common is that? Matched on an app, went for a coffee date. When I arrived I immediately noticed that a guy looks older and much less fit than his pics (fit in pics and overweight in real life) So annoyed. Before the meeting he also gave me a link to his linkedin and his pic there is also at least 10yo.
First time happened to me. People usually do upload flattering pics but this is outright lie.

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Velmy · 20/07/2025 05:12

To me it's no different than saying you earn 100k when you're actually on minimum wage, or that you're child-free when you actually have three kids and are in the middle of a custody battle.

The subject of the lie doesn't matter, it's the fact that they're willing to do it right off the bat, and assume you'll be happy to just go along with it.

Makingitupaswegoalong · 20/07/2025 05:21

My friend had been in a serious relationship with someone for months when they went away and she saw his passport and realised he’d lied about his age. They’re married with kids now.

SiameseBlueEyes · 20/07/2025 05:31

My son has the opposite problem. For some reason he's not very photogenic. People always tell him they are surprised that he is actually much better looking in real life!

cariadlet · 20/07/2025 05:51

OverlyFragrant · 19/07/2025 23:31

There's a man on tinder currently using photos from 2012.

How do I know they were taken in 2012, because he's wearing a games maker uniform standing in the olympic park with one of those foam hands.

That's the only example that's been posted so far where I think using an old photo is ok.
It's so obvious when the photo is from that it can hardly count as deception. It might just be his favourite photo because it reminds him of a special time.

Of course, if he's lied about his age and is pretending to be younger than he is, that's a different story.

Icanttakethisanymore · 20/07/2025 06:05

BettyCrockerClinic · 20/07/2025 01:51

A few years ago, someone claiming to be 36 tried it on with me via a dating website. He’d obviously forgotten that a) we’d dated briefly about 12 years before and b) that he was 37 then.

😂

Figcherry · 20/07/2025 06:43

A friend of mine was in the car park when her date arrived in a 4x4.
He looked OK and her hopes were high and then as he got out of the car ( she was looking from the passenger side) he just disappeared.

Turns out he was 5' 2"". 😅

minnienono · 20/07/2025 06:47

My picture on linked in is ancient because i haven’t updated it for yonks, not because it’s any kind of conspiracy! Blush

I had pictures that included old ones when I did old, now dh’s I know he took just before because he colleague took it

holidaytospain · 20/07/2025 06:52

It’s very common! People seem to lie about their age all the time as well

minnienono · 20/07/2025 06:54

I had a guy get really cross and told be I was ageist because i wouldn’t meet him due to lying about age and too old for me. I was in my mid 40’s and put 40-55 as my range, this guy was 70
but lied so we matched, texted through app and he asked to WhatsApp me, fine he seemed nice but lived 100 miles away so seemed sensible to chat before meeting - as soon as I saw him I knew he wasn’t 54, I called him out and he admitted to lying as he liked younger women! I told him i didn’t like older men as i didn’t want to be a carer in the near future!!! Got a couple of nasty texts before I blocked him. Don’t lie! Using an older photo but putting true age on it isn’t as bad

veggie50 · 20/07/2025 07:07

That happens a lot. in fact, a friend of mine did that and when I pointed out the likely consequence of posting something that looks more like her daughter than her, she was none too pleased...needless to say, the whole adventure was a disappointment. People really should know telling a lie that they can't keep up would only lead to failure!

OverlyFragrant · 20/07/2025 07:26

cariadlet · 20/07/2025 05:51

That's the only example that's been posted so far where I think using an old photo is ok.
It's so obvious when the photo is from that it can hardly count as deception. It might just be his favourite photo because it reminds him of a special time.

Of course, if he's lied about his age and is pretending to be younger than he is, that's a different story.

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No his entire collection of photos were clearly at least 13 years old.
Same hair cut, same fashion, same young face.
The Olympic photo was last, I was swiping through saw him and thought yep normal man early 30s, profile said 35, saw the 2012 photo and thought he'd be atleast 47 now. These are not photos of a 47 year old.

PiriPiriMenopause · 20/07/2025 07:26

This reminds me of photos of food on fast food ads, it never look the same when you order it in real life!

LillyPJ · 20/07/2025 07:42

I think it's more common for men to use old photos because they often don't have as many photos of themselves. I've met men who've been a few years older, and noticeably so, but they hadn't lied about their age so I didn't mind. The worst lie was one who added about 5" to his height because it was obvious as soon as I met him. I had to look down at him instead of up!

Shrimpybaby · 20/07/2025 07:50

I lied on a dating site.

I used my work postcode as where I lived wasn't as nice and I said I was 29 not 31 as I figured men might dismiss me more easily once I'd hit 30, without knowing me.

Anyway, I went on one date and here I am, 12 years later married to that date! He didn't mind at all. But it's a bit different to using 10 year old pics and chnahong my height/weight completely!

Ezzee · 20/07/2025 07:51

Worst I had was a guy who lied about his appearance and age.
10 years older than stated and at least 10 stone heavier than the photos.
We met in a pub and he had to sit on a sofa as was too big for the chair, if he had been honest it wouldn't be a problem but I wouldn't have met him.
He did acknowledge the weight gain but said oh when the photos were taken I didn't have a little middle aged spread I replied that's cool but what's the excuse for lying about your age too.
Drank my orange juice and left.
For 2 years he'd cc me into email to tell me how amazing his life was and how much I was missing out on! Weird.

Doggymummar · 20/07/2025 07:56

My ex husband, we have been divorced 12 years is still using the photo he was using when we met, over 25 years ago! He is 35 in the picture and 60 in real life. Pity the woman who dates him now.

stayathomer · 20/07/2025 07:56

Very torn, my Fb profile pic is very old now, it depends whether it was done on purpose or he just didn’t think/ likes the picture/ it was close to hand

WooleyMunky · 20/07/2025 07:57

One of my closest friends did a bit of this a couple of years ago.
All guys lie about their height. Particularly the 5'8" saying 6'.
Most lie about age.
A lot of younger guys looking for a milf fantasy (she was late 40s)
One guy sent her a dick pic from the toilets of their date after one drink.
And then sat there checking his phone to see if she was going to send something back. She left and came and met me instead.
The one who had a full head of hair and was clean-shaven in his photo, but turned up bald with a beard, like his head was upside down.
A lot of married men looking for 'daytime adventures'.
Hundreds of 'country walks and pub lunch' profiles.
She gave it up.
Ended up meeting someone from work...
I think the apps are dreadful.

WalkingWavy · 20/07/2025 07:57

From many conversations with my female friends, men lie about their age on dating apps because they want to date much younger women. It’s disgusting and is the reason most of my friends have given up on the apps (I thankfully am in a LTR)

daisychain01 · 20/07/2025 08:01

Brionysonluv · 19/07/2025 23:54

It's usually women who get all the flack for lying about age etc. so I'm quite surprised at all these men on dating sites telling porkies but expecting ladies to still date them. I've never tried dating apps. Don't think I ever will.

Nowadays there is excessive pressure due to social media for men and women to be young and fit. Human beings aren't valued for who they are, it's all about how they look. I don't agree with lying, but many people probably succumb to that pressure just to get a date.

Dating apps are a cattle-market and although I haven't used a dating app since DH and I got together, I bet AI is being used to enhance people's photos.

Highlighta · 20/07/2025 08:02

Not uncommon unfortunately.

One date knocked 12 years off his age, and I walked straight past him at the place we were to meet up.

He continued to lie about his age through the (short) date, but was outed a while later when he was tagged in his birthday celebration photo and the age was on the cake.

😂 All I could think was I bet he won't use that photo on his tinder profile.

Lazyjunedays · 20/07/2025 08:07

Hmm, I've checked my dating profile and there is a photo from six years ago. It is more a landscape shot with my back to the camera. Do I need to get rid? 😳

Flossflower · 20/07/2025 08:08

Wrong thread sorry.

prelovedusername · 20/07/2025 08:09

I think the brutal truth is that women are more selective than men and so men feel they have to tart up their profiles to get any interest at all. I’m not saying it’s right, just understandable. Women do it too, btw, they often turn out to be fatter than the pic they use.

I thought your thread title was saying he used a photo of a ten year old. Now that would be weird!

AngelinaFibres · 20/07/2025 08:22

Figcherry · 20/07/2025 06:43

A friend of mine was in the car park when her date arrived in a 4x4.
He looked OK and her hopes were high and then as he got out of the car ( she was looking from the passenger side) he just disappeared.

Turns out he was 5' 2"". 😅

My friend met a man who had described himself as 'just under 6 ft'. They met in a cafe and he had ( deliberately) got there first and was sitting down when she arrived. He didn't stand to greet her. Turned out he was 5'4". He's also overweight and has bottle- bottom glasses. She has saviour syndrome and he has a chaotic life with trans/ not binary/ school refusing/ huge mental health problem children . He uttered the cat-nip phrase to a rescuer type ' it would take a really, really special person to take me on' and she was hooked. There is nothing in his personality or physical self that is remotely attractive.