Husband furious I took the bins out - WWYD?

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Bit of a daft one maybe but genuinely curious what others think.

DH has been in a strop since last night because I took the bins out. He was sat on the sofa watching the cricket, bins were literally spilling over, so I just grabbed them on the way out to the shop. Didn’t even think about it.

Anyway he’s now saying I “emasculated” him and “disrespected his role as a husband” (his words, not mine 🙄). Apparently bin duty is his thing and I’ve overstepped??

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky. I laughed at first but now he’s gone all moody and dramatic like I’ve committed some massive betrayal.

Is this normal?? I thought this kinda gendered nonsense was dead and buried but he’s proper taking it personally. Anyone else’s OH like this or is mine just being a numpty?

WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?

Oh id love someone to cut the grass for me.

My husband's disabled so I guess I do everything so probably the issue, I'm not lazy just would like a break.

Oh my, had to laugh. What else is 'his' duty? Cleaning the toilets? Do you do all the cooking except BBQs? If it needs saying, yes, he is being silly.

"Told me I made him look useless"

Tell him he did that all by himself, he didn't need any help from you.

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I haven’t RTFT but one of my great post divorce pleasures is being in charge of the bins. No more hearing the bin men whizz past the house whilst exh whinged about how much he had to do and how hard his life was etc etc and how could he be expected to do one (fucking/only) job. Eight years on I still get as much pleasure from it as I did in the first week - and yes I know pre divorce I could have put them out but it was literally the only thing he had to do.

Actually I lie. He mowed the lawns, but made a huge thing of it, so much so once he was gone I approached it with fear and trepidation. It was easy peasy, nothing to it, and I’d finished in under an hour a job that would take home most of the afternoon (and no he wasn’t strimming or edging, just mowing).

Life is good.

How fucking embarrassing

Haha, your DH will be jealous to hear … my DH has a medical waste bin of his own! that I wouldn’t dream of touching not never ever!
& it has to be emptied every single week,
whereas the regular bins are only emptied fortnightly🙄.

Ooohhh is he one of those men who likes showing off to the neighbours about how much he does, the good husband I mean?

No it’s not normal. Run away

😂😂 he's paid privately for trifocal lenses to replace early cataracts he can see better than me.

my husband always does the bins, not because its a masculine thing to do but because I don't want to and only do it if absolutely necessary. He also always buys birthday cards as no-one would get one if it was down to me. In return I always pay the bills electronically because he hates it as well as a number of household jobs that he dislikes or does not see need doing. As long as there is a fair distribution of chores here is no such thing as men and women jobs just preferences and having the skills to do them Your husband is being a twat and needs to grow up.

He must have appointed himself as ‘King of the bins!’ and you just committed treason! 😆

I’d be more worried about what jobs he is refusing to do because they aren’t masculine enough for him?

Well if it's his job, why didn't he bloody do it?

He feels useless because he couldn’t take the bins out? So is taking the bins out as far as his usefulness goes then? What a pathetic argument if that’s what he thinks his duty is to be a good husband 😂 why couldn’t he do another job instead - Wash the pots? Vacuum? Iron? Let me guess, the bins are his chosen one because that’s the easiest and he thinks the bare minimum constitutes a good husband?

I need someone to take my bins out every week because I hate doing it and I have no man in the house (I’m gay, and single). Perhaps he’d like to gain extra masculinity points by popping round and doing my bins on Tuesday nights?

This is great advice.

Easy. You wear Doc Martins two sizes too big for your feet , a big bulky jacket, a beanie pulled down low and a false beard. Fine in the winter months, but might get you a few sideways glances when the air temp is 33 in the shade.

Twat. Is that all he does around the house? I bet he's puffed up with self importance when he puts the bins out.

Does he also brag that mowing the lawn is "his" job? An once a fortnight summer activity that means he just has to lay down for the other 7-8 months of the year because it's so taxing?

This is not normal behaviour - hopefully it will blow over and you can put some shelves up😂

M hm

Clearly the work of chat gpt. Tedious.

Tell him to get over himself

Another 'one post and run' poster. How very tedious.

Help him pack.
What a loser.