Husband furious I took the bins out - WWYD?

[Cowshopak]

Bit of a daft one maybe but genuinely curious what others think.

DH has been in a strop since last night because I took the bins out. He was sat on the sofa watching the cricket, bins were literally spilling over, so I just grabbed them on the way out to the shop. Didn’t even think about it.

Anyway he’s now saying I “emasculated” him and “disrespected his role as a husband” (his words, not mine 🙄). Apparently bin duty is his thing and I’ve overstepped??

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky. I laughed at first but now he’s gone all moody and dramatic like I’ve committed some massive betrayal.

Is this normal?? I thought this kinda gendered nonsense was dead and buried but he’s proper taking it personally. Anyone else’s OH like this or is mine just being a numpty?

WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?

He's right about looking useless, he just doesn't want the neighbours to see you putting the bins out, does he do anything else around the house.

If it’s his duty, why was he slacking!?

throw some stuff in the bin, tell him they need doing, or as if you need to do it!

OP'S HUSBAND: You've emasculated me.
LORENA BOBBITT: Hold my carving knife.

If a man can't see a bin, he needs to go specsavers.

Even without my contacts, with their considerable prescription, I can see the whopping great bin sitting in the kitchen. I can also smell it when it needs emptying.

I could cry for you.

I just read that out to DH who says

”he should pop to Birmingham” 😂😂😂

Without knowing either of you, I am going to say this man is angry about something in his life other than bins and just doesn't know how to express it. That doesn't make it your fault of course and it doesn't mean he's being reasonable. When someone says something so obviously unreasonable or rude to me, my usual response is 'are you okay?' not because I'm especially thoughtful, but because it usually makes them stop and think about their reaction. Not always though, some people are just awful and he may be the latter.

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky

Well if the bins were overflowing like you said then he was useless at keep on top of his masculine house chore!

Headline:

SUPER(BIN) MAN clears up Birmingham squalor in Hours!!

So your DH derives his self esteem from being the one who takes the bins out? I feel very sorry for you.

Sorry had to laugh :£

But he is quite useless if the bins are overflowing? Christ, he sounds like a toddler having a tantrum because Mummy did something he wanted to do himself. Give him a long list of blue jobs 🤮 and tell him to knock himself out

He's talking a whole load of garbage.

I'd put him in the bin

100% this. You took his one job ‘to make him look bad’. Well I’ve an idea - why not drop jobs and see how he gets on then? Dick.

Bollocks. No way did this happen.

wtf?

Purlease, does this mean he thinks cooking and cleaning is women’s work?? What a cock.

My mother once legged it up the garden path, threw herself into the house and ran to shut the curtains in the living room... because my Dad was ironing in there - what would the neighbours think?!

She was livid with him!

'WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?'

Put him in the bin.

Yeah, I think it's just another man bashing thread tbh.

The poor bastard is definitely having some serious issues.

Right!?

@Cowshopak my recent ex was the same. Have my own home with huge front and back gardens and when he first met all 5’ nothing of me, he’d gush how he loved my independent nature and that I just got on with stuff alone. And how he wanted his 18 year old to be the same and dependent on no one.

THEN! After a a year of being together he’d actually get in a strop - like proper sulk - if I did my own lawn mowing 🤯. Just one of the red flags that emerged actually. It got to the point where when he’d pick me up for a date I’d rush him up the driveway so he wouldn’t see the lawn had been freshly mowed. Crazy!

Oh my god. He's emasculated himself by acting like such a baby 😂

I grew up with a single mother, and then lived with other girls at uni, so I was quite shocked when I entered the adult world to learn that so many people see taking out the bins as a man's job. It doesn't especially require any strength... it's so weird. Very weird for him to be so upset about it. I could sort of understand if it was something that showed off his muscles, like moving a fridge freezer or a wardrobe or something (it would still be pathetic, but more understandable). But to get upset about the bins is just baffling!

I always put the bins out. I'd love someone to do it for me.