Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Husband furious I took the bins out - WWYD?

253 replies

Cowshopak · 17/07/2025 10:07

Bit of a daft one maybe but genuinely curious what others think.

DH has been in a strop since last night because I took the bins out. He was sat on the sofa watching the cricket, bins were literally spilling over, so I just grabbed them on the way out to the shop. Didn’t even think about it.

Anyway he’s now saying I “emasculated” him and “disrespected his role as a husband” (his words, not mine 🙄). Apparently bin duty is his thing and I’ve overstepped??

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky. I laughed at first but now he’s gone all moody and dramatic like I’ve committed some massive betrayal.

Is this normal?? I thought this kinda gendered nonsense was dead and buried but he’s proper taking it personally. Anyone else’s OH like this or is mine just being a numpty?

WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?

OP posts:
Cynic17 · 17/07/2025 13:04

He's an idiot, and I don't know how the OP can bear to live with someone whose ideas are from the Stone Age.

bostonchamps · 17/07/2025 13:04

Grammarnut · 17/07/2025 12:52

My late DH got very huffy when I let my son carve a roast one day. Said I was putting my son in his place. Silly, really - but he was the just post-war generation so thought differently on such things! I loved him so let him get on with it until the point when he didn't care any more. But men get funny about these things. If he wants to take the bins out, let him. Remind him if they are overflowing. Other than that, shrug shoulders.
Oh, and I'd now go and get bins in and say, don't forget the bins! 😀

So OP should just walk past an overflowing bin in her home because her husband's masculinity is so fragile and must be protected at all costs? Fuck that for a game of soliders.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 17/07/2025 13:08

Fucking hell, I'd love it it DP took the bins out once in a while! But no, it's apparently a "mans job" so I have to do it.

And yet if I suggest she irons a shirt for me I'm the patriarchy personified!

MoveOverToTheSea · 17/07/2025 13:13

😂😂😂

So it’s his job you shouldn’t touch.
But somehow he isn’t taking that much responsibility for it that the bins are actually overflowing…. 😵‍💫😵‍💫

As for ‘emasculating’ him …..

justasking111 · 17/07/2025 13:13

Men don't see overflowing bins, well mine doesn't. I actually have to remove it from the kitchen to the steps to stop him stuffing anything else in. Otherwise it's as precarious as the last move in Jenga

Sasha07 · 17/07/2025 13:15

Were his genitals also in the bin? He needs to chill tf out.

WeeHighlandCoo · 17/07/2025 13:16

if it were me and my OH had dared even look at me funny, never mind pass comment; he’d be in the bin as well.

Fluffypotatoe123987 · 17/07/2025 13:16

Ex husband was like this he also brought the washing in. Ex bf refused as it was ex husbands job. Let him take the bins out honestly its not the best job anyways

nomas · 17/07/2025 13:17

justasking111 · 17/07/2025 13:13

Men don't see overflowing bins, well mine doesn't. I actually have to remove it from the kitchen to the steps to stop him stuffing anything else in. Otherwise it's as precarious as the last move in Jenga

He does see a full bin, he’s just an entitled twat who doesn’t think it’s his job to empty it.

nomas · 17/07/2025 13:18

Fluffypotatoe123987 · 17/07/2025 13:16

Ex husband was like this he also brought the washing in. Ex bf refused as it was ex husbands job. Let him take the bins out honestly its not the best job anyways

Your ex boyfriend refused to bring the washing in because your ex husband used to bring the washing in? Have I read that right?

Pherian · 17/07/2025 13:20

Cowshopak · 17/07/2025 10:07

Bit of a daft one maybe but genuinely curious what others think.

DH has been in a strop since last night because I took the bins out. He was sat on the sofa watching the cricket, bins were literally spilling over, so I just grabbed them on the way out to the shop. Didn’t even think about it.

Anyway he’s now saying I “emasculated” him and “disrespected his role as a husband” (his words, not mine 🙄). Apparently bin duty is his thing and I’ve overstepped??

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky. I laughed at first but now he’s gone all moody and dramatic like I’ve committed some massive betrayal.

Is this normal?? I thought this kinda gendered nonsense was dead and buried but he’s proper taking it personally. Anyone else’s OH like this or is mine just being a numpty?

WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?

No this is not normal.

It’s batshit crazy.

MissPeachyKeen · 17/07/2025 13:21

"No one can emasculate you without your permission"

SixteenClovesOfGarlic · 17/07/2025 13:22

@justasking111
'Men don't see overflowing bins'

Do they not? What a weird infliction to have, do their penises cover their eyes any time there's a bin nearby?

FluffykinsTheFerociousFeralFelineFury · 17/07/2025 13:22

'I'm sorry darling, I didn't realise your sexual responses were so closely linked to the bin. Why don't you have sex with it for the foreseeable future?'

MsJen · 17/07/2025 13:23

If it’s a man’s job, who’s going to take mine out? I really don’t want to have a man in the house just because of the bins.

Rabbitsockpeony · 17/07/2025 13:25

”You feel and look like a useless cunt, because you acted like a useless cunt.”

That just about covers it.

Pubgarden · 17/07/2025 13:26

What a knob.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 17/07/2025 13:27

justasking111 · 17/07/2025 13:13

Men don't see overflowing bins, well mine doesn't. I actually have to remove it from the kitchen to the steps to stop him stuffing anything else in. Otherwise it's as precarious as the last move in Jenga

Yes they do.
Some just choose to ignore them.

Rocknrollstar · 17/07/2025 13:27

husband has f a friend of mine once told me off for helping get the shopping out of the boot of the car’

campertess · 17/07/2025 13:29

Tell him if he is going to sulk and be dramatic to do it elsewhere because you want a husband, not a child.

Rabbitsockpeony · 17/07/2025 13:33

justasking111 · 17/07/2025 13:13

Men don't see overflowing bins, well mine doesn't. I actually have to remove it from the kitchen to the steps to stop him stuffing anything else in. Otherwise it's as precarious as the last move in Jenga

I bet your awful husband is delighted he’s got you believing that crock of shit.

You think his eyes work differently to yours?! Of course they don’t. He’s just a lazy twat who would rather wedge stuff in there and let his slave wife sort it out. He has no respect for you.

PrettyParrot · 17/07/2025 13:36

Is it the only job he actually does? I wonder if he's feeling guilty about his own laziness and is taking it out on you for inadvertently demonstrating that you don't actually need him for anything.

researchers3 · 17/07/2025 13:36

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/07/2025 10:10

I don't do sulking. I'd get on with my day and let him get on with it.

I'd then draw up a list of 'masculine' chores such as laundry, meal planning and bathroom.

Excellent suggestion!! 😁

Sunnygin · 17/07/2025 13:37

Absentmindedsmile · 17/07/2025 10:12

😂😂😂😂 I could not cope with such moronic behaviour. Jesus Christ.

(It sounds like he’d not been fulfilling his manly duties effectively anyway, by letting the bins get to the over- flowing stage. Tell him to stick that in his pipe and smoke it. 😂)

Edited

God help us...another person who needs to grow up....tell him he is a twat....what's happening today...just trying to understand the other post from a woman ...screaming at her husband over eye drops....has the world gone crazy 🤪

pinkpony88 · 17/07/2025 13:40

Not sure I’ve ever heard of a masculinity that fragile! 😳 I always do the bins because I’m at home a lot more. DH is always just happy it’s done 😆