Husband furious I took the bins out - WWYD?

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Bit of a daft one maybe but genuinely curious what others think.

DH has been in a strop since last night because I took the bins out. He was sat on the sofa watching the cricket, bins were literally spilling over, so I just grabbed them on the way out to the shop. Didn’t even think about it.

Anyway he’s now saying I “emasculated” him and “disrespected his role as a husband” (his words, not mine 🙄). Apparently bin duty is his thing and I’ve overstepped??

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky. I laughed at first but now he’s gone all moody and dramatic like I’ve committed some massive betrayal.

Is this normal?? I thought this kinda gendered nonsense was dead and buried but he’s proper taking it personally. Anyone else’s OH like this or is mine just being a numpty?

WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?

Maybe if he'd got up off his arse instead of watching the TV, he could have beaten you to it! Complete knob!

How long have you been married?

Surely this can't be the FIRST whiff of insanity you've ever experienced from him?

I'd be closely monitoring his internet activity from now on for any Andrew Tate esque browsing.

Ironing has got a metal in the word grrr definitely a job for him from now on 😄

What?! He's being absolutely ridiculous. This isn't normal behaviour, OP. Is he like this often, because if so it's a very dysfunctional way to live.

That's brilliant 👏 🤣

All I can say.

Good heavens. My DH is delighted if I take the bins out!

Hahaha oh dear. Clearly an insecure little boy wanting to be seen as a man, as he obviously isn’t!

What an idiot 🤣 I do the bins every week and my husband puts them out before he goes to work on bin day. It’s never once occurred to either of us that it’s a man’s job!

my husband washes up - is that emasculating?

I would look all sorry, and forget the bins. And let him rock on with the bins. No more having to drag smell bins out. I would feel like I've won the lottery.

This is too funny - invariably in our house, I take the bag out the bin and tie it up then place it by back door to go out. By the time I've replaced the bag in the bin, I have forgotten about the bag needing to go out and DH will pick up and take it out chuckling to himself and calling me "arf-a". I blame my ADHD.

No jobs in our house are male/female. DH does most of washing/ironing and cooking

On what planet is this even a thing?

I hate doing bins and I do think men should do them, I do virtually everything else including giving birth and nursing children it’s his only job. Id capitalise on his masculinity and ask him to take pride in it and do it way before they’re overflowing, remember to heap praise on him afterwards too 🙄

If the bins are his job and were over spilling, why didn’t he take them out? Make it make sense!

It's not really about the bins though is it? Time for a calm chat when he's finished sulking about what is really going on with him

P.s. I'm the binfluencer in our street. Every sunday morning I sort out the bins ready for monday and clean the kitchen. DHs job is to make me a bacon butty (red sauce) and cuppa ready for when I've finished!

Were all your neighbours out on the street, laughing, pointing fingers and judging him for his lack of masculinity by letting you touch the bins? Have they taken out full page adverts in the local paper outing him for his lack of gravitas in the trouser department?

Why don’t you suggest he goes down the the local park bare chested and wrangles a couple of rabbits to death with his bare hands for your supper. Then he can chop down a tree with his flint axe and roast them in your front garden. That’ll show them who the real man in your street is.

Just don’t even suggest you wash the car on Sunday morning while he cuts the grass.

We definitely need more men duties around the house. 😁

Tell him he has emasculated himself by having such fragile masculinity that it can be taken from him simply by you doing particular chores.

My late DH got very huffy when I let my son carve a roast one day. Said I was putting my son in his place. Silly, really - but he was the just post-war generation so thought differently on such things! I loved him so let him get on with it until the point when he didn't care any more. But men get funny about these things. If he wants to take the bins out, let him. Remind him if they are overflowing. Other than that, shrug shoulders.
Oh, and I'd now go and get bins in and say, don't forget the bins! 😀

God he sounds so sexy 😏

Tell him to grow up and behave like an adult.

Exactly this... you've pissed him off because he thinks you are making a dig at him not putting them out..

Regardless of whether it's normal it's ridiculous. Tell him if he wants to re-masculate, there's some shelves that want putting up

What a thought.

hes being an arsehole. Put HIM in the bin. Tell him if he had taken it out before it was overflowing then you wouldn’t have had to. And never take it out again!!