Oh Bananabeau you will be missed.

[Rainbows41]

I'm so sorry to see your post has been removed. You will be missed.
I refreshed my app daily in the hopes of seeing positive updates from you, and I'm sad you felt you needed to remove your post altogether.
I wish you well in your future and I sincerely hope you can fulfill your dreams.

You deserve to be happy.
💗

As MN deleted her account (maybe the second one shd created as well?), maybe they know something we don't? Or am I getting the wrong end of the stick?

I don’t know. I just know that her threads went on for a while and in the end she seemed in a really bad way. I hope she’s ok

I have to ask, did anyone ( else ) receive a message on Bank Holiday Monday asking for help / money ?

Yes I did.

Eek.

I wonder if anyone sent money.

There's another thread atm where the OP has handed over several hundred pounds to a poster and they are asking for more.

No way! Clearly that imposter account wasn't her then and someone looking to make a buck or two on the back of her downfall. Absolute cheek! I say this, as there is just no way banana would ever ask strangers for money. Absolutely no way!

Do you know her personally?

Would you mind PMing me which one?

I reported it several times, asking for HQ to issue a warning. It was deleted.

I did comment wondering if it was 🍌 and was told no by the OP.

Thanks carmak and Buck

It's an anonymous site.

What a mess! Either banana was desperate or someone is trying to make money off her misfortune. All we can be assured in is we were there for us when she needed us

What's the post?

Indeed, and with a lot of people who obviously care a hell of a lot when someone is suffering in an abusive relationship. Not trying to be distrustful or anything, but someone could easily make up a believable story, carry on a thread for days, weeks even, have people checking in on them, worrying about them, and then eventually start asking for financial help from the people who feel like they know this person.

I'm not saying that's the case here, and I'm not saying it would be common, but it's why MN warn not to send money to people.

I still think / believe BB will be back one day, and she will make herself known somehow - whether it be on this thread or she pops up somewhere else quietly.

I did not send money, it's one thing to offer a bed for a couple of weeks and another to send money off into ' cyberspace '.

I was surprised I was asked but wondered if ' she ' had approached everyone on the thread or if she had asked as she had read I had offered a bed as I don't feel I have replied very often on her threads tho I believe I have prob replied on all of them.

As an aside, on a Chrome book if you don't ever log out - you are always logged in and can read and reply to threads / pm's. I don't ever log out but if I clear cookies then I do need to log back in.

Why am I saying this, my Chromebook is at home and I trust my dd not to be interested in MumsNet and certainly don't see her writing on threads as me.

However we all know of / read of partners / Husbands snooping etc. which is why I reminded one lady on a thread months ago to remember to log out every time and change her password.

' We ' have 3 possible scenarios on this thread

1. BB did write each and every reply, including the 2nd profile
2. Her partner gained access and it was him replying in later stages / he created the 2nd profile.
3. A total stranger was the 2nd profile / username

I was suspicious of the use of the word “wot” in the second profile as Bananabeau had always been so articulate previously. I suspect it wasn’t her, it was an imposter or the ex and that she’s still trapped in that bloody house.

If you look at posts from 23/08 and 25/08 she used all different writing styles - sometimes how r u, sometimes writing out you and are, and also commented on not having sounded like herself. Then on 25/08 she definitely said wot. Since the older threads had been deleted I couldn’t remember exactly how she’d worded things.

It’s possible it was a wind-up all along, or that her H had found her account. It’s pretty sad either way, I suppose. Obviously worse if she was genuine and needed help - if her H wanted to alienate her from the network that had been advising her, going around asking for money would be a clever way to do it

I agree with this, the writing style suddenly changed. That was just before the name change I believe, which makes me anxious it was someone in the home rather than a random opportunist. I do hope she's ok and finds a way to say sometime, it's a shame in a way the threads were deleted as she might have still got hope from them.

My belief now is that all her posts in the first two threads were all written by AI and were a complete work of fiction, and then she got those threads deleted so people couldn't compare them with later ones, and the later threads and PMs were her own writing and all of it was very carefully building up to get money from people. I was so struck when her writing style suddenly changed that I messaged mumsnet to ask if the PMs I was getting were really being sent by the same person, and they confirmed it was coming from the same IP address.

She PM'd me back and forth for a while and after the first two threads I was so invested and so wanting to help her escape, but her replies to my questions were vague, didn't ring true or make sense, and I gradually realised I was being set up for a scam. She contacted another person I know and did the same thing, and when it became obvious each of us weren't going to give her any money she stopped messaging.

I was gutted and also embarrassed because like any others I was very moved by her first two threads and really wanted to help her, and I'm now a lot warier as a result and have hardly posted here since. It's easy to imagine the AI prompt that could have written the whole series of posts.

So we were taken for a ride?

Thank you for sharing this info.

I don't know for sure of course but I think we probably were. It was all so strange though and she really stuck in my head, which is why I came back to this thread today to see if she had posted again. It was just after the shingles thing that the writing style changed, and there was also a long gap in her posting which got everyone so worried.

Thank you for the update @ReadingTime. A salutory tale for us all, there are scammers everywhere sadly. No need to feel embarrassed, I was totally invested in this thread.