Hi everyone, my husband walked out on me 4 weeks ago, he couldn’t tell me why he was unhappy but he started getting very close to another woman at work (ive heard terrible things and so has my sister in law she used to work with her and apparently she isn’t nice). He tried making so many excuses then told me he didn’t know why he was unhappy and before he left told me he loved me and I was his best friend. I know he’s been spending time with this girl because he enjoys her company, he told me this 3 weeks after we split up. It stung but it’s given me the strength to between the tears start to learn my worth. He seems so unbothered and unphased while im breaking my heart, heartbroken and crying everyday. Acting like life is so normal and nothing happened. I was a great wife to him. I supported him leaving the army, getting into his new career, a potential career move that was going on recently and trying to get him out of debt from leaving the army impulsive without a financial plan. I had to go back to work 12 weeks after having my little boy to help with the debt because we couldn’t afford to live and even got myself in 2K worth of debt for him that im still paying. He doesn’t seem bothered, keeps asking if there’s any updates about me moving. Ive supported that man from day one. When we had nothing, I truly loved him. And I didn’t think he’d ever do this to me. we have 2 kids.
I don’t think they’ve thought any of this through, if it’s a rebound or something but she has 2 kids in school and loves her own time and going out partying. Our kids are 3 and 15 months, I can’t see her wanting to change nappies and enjoying our autistic toddler smearing poo all over…
Everyone keeps saying that when he realises the grass is greener he will run back and he will regret it, I don’t see it. What are your thoughts Mumsnet? I just want to see him grovel, he has shown me he’s a weak man. He seems absolutely obsessed with this girl. Not sure if it’s limerence. I know I wasn’t the issue and even his family have said it. It’s just a crap position to be in right now…