Leaving almost 19 year old daughter 2 nights a week.

[Hartey40]

So I leave my daughter 2 nights a week to stay at my partners. She is welcome to come too but prefers to stay at my/her home, he works in hospitality local to where he lives and finishes late so not practical for him to stay at mine, there is no issue with this arrangement, other than that I have mum guilt, does anyone else do this ? She starts university in Sept and she will be living 5 hours away, so maybe I’m emotional about that too. Please be kind with your opinions.

Tbf she is out quite a lot so I would be sat at home on my own, but I appreciate we are all different

Thank you and lovely to hear about your Daughter too

I had a mortgage at 19. She'll be fine.

Thank you. 😊

I always seem to be saying “ I wouldn’t” on these Home Alone threads, but this one I don’t see a problem with.

I’m not lol

Thank you 😊

That’s so lovely to read! Well done to your son and you and his dad 😊

This

My DP’s lived abroad for weeks at a time, leaving me ‘home alone’ at 18.🤭

I loved it so much I still lived there at 27!

What do you mean ‘this’

She probably loves it, OP. Both of my children (20 and 16) love being home alone.

We’ve left DS (16) overnight for a single night so far with no issues. DD’s finishing her second year at uni so obviously she’s fine.
i think it’s a good way to teach them how to cope alone.

Yes, it's fine to leave an adult alone for 2 nights a week.

You should feel good about it, she's a young adult and you've done a good job parenting if she's confident, happy and independent!
Enjoy the freedom that her adult independence gives you.

@Poonu

why wouldn’t you?

Exactly @Lovetosurf!

It's fine, I do similar fairly regularly. My DS is almost 19, born v late in school year so did his A'levels last summer.

She probably enjoys having the house to herself at this age.

I work overnight once a week and my DD (19) is fine with it.
Although in the winter she has the heating on all evening and in the summer sometimes has friends over!

Yes my daughter has friends over too for sleepovers quite often

My oldest dd will actually go and stay at her dad’s if he’s gone abroad. She loves being lady of the manor there and having friends over for dinner. She has to just clean up after herself or her dad would go nuts. However @Hartey40 why do you feel guilty and if you do, maybe stay home or plan something nice when you are both home? Quality time might be the answer? I think society puts alot of guilt on us mothers and single mums come under the most scrutiny. We are allowed to have a life though children will always come first.

thank you yes we go away for short breaks and stuff like that which is nice. I think I’ve been conditioned to feel guilty about everything tbh x

@Hartey40 agree re conditioning to feel guilty xx

My DD finished A levels worked 3 jobs till October then went to New Zealand for two years before Uni. Your daughter wants to stay home, her choice, I hope she finds a summer job soon. Try KFC if she doesn't mind catering it was decent money and can transfer to uni town and back if desired.

That was my opinion. You treat her like a child.