Firstly, I just wanted to say thank you so much to mumsnet for all the advice on my divorce. Times seemed very dark back then but as so many of you said, it would and did get easier.
It has now been 7 years since my divorce and I was very much in the stay single forever camp.
But very unexpectedly, I have been seeing my now partner for 10 months and things are becoming quite serious. Serious enough that I want him to meet my DC.
My ex has never got over the fact I left him and that there was no affairs on either side, I simply fell out of love with him. He reminds me constantly that I have ruined his life, I made a commitment that I broke etc etc.
We do not have much communication between us and drop offs are very much ‘hi and bye’ (he refuses to engage in conversation) anything material is dealt with by text message.
my ex doesn’t have DC overnight (by choice) and whilst my partner doesn’t want to apply pressure, I want to start moving things to the next level meeting DC, of having him to stay over, with the view to eventually moving in.
I know my ex is going to take it very hard and will most likely start threatening me with court for custody and everything else all over again.
how would you approach this? I’d like to be open and honest and my new partner has offered to meet my ex. I know it’s my life and my choice but don’t want to feel like I’m hiding anything so I can fully give this relationship a go.
As I’ve said, whilst I’ve played the ‘seeing people’ game over the years while DC is visiting their dad, I’ve never introduced a partner to my DC because it’s never been serious enough.
any advice or own experiences, as always is much appreciated.