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TheLimeQuail · 2025-05-11T20:49:52+00:00

I am seeing someone each week. they are trapped with kids and don’t like being in their relationship but feel obligated to stay. I like the company of this person but not going any further until I can figure out the truth. I know I have heard this story before and there is a chance that it is a lie. Even if it doesn’t lead to anything, what can I do to make them feel better?

KrystalKrystal · 12/05/2025 08:26

@TheLimeQuail

Hi OP I've sent you a PM. X

Whiteflowerscreed · 12/05/2025 08:31

Absolute garbage. You can’t be stupid enough to fall for that surely?!

3peassuit · 12/05/2025 08:37

Don’t waste a minute more of your time on him.

Crikeyalmighty · 12/05/2025 11:19

Hedgingmybetching · 12/05/2025 00:00

Why the fuck would you want to have a relationship with a lying cunt who cheats on his wife?

We live in a fairly civilised society where people are actually allowed to divorce one another and regardless of what some men claim, a court will allow a father to see and live with his children in a shared custody arrangement unless there is mountains of police evidence that he is so dangerous and abusive it's a safeguarding issue (and even then they still will probably grant supervised visitation) also most men are not "trapped" because of kids unless he's a stay at home Dad and doesn't have enough of an income to live independently from his wife....

Mate, do you really think cheating fucks tell potential side pieces that their wive's are actually lovely people who they don't want to leave because it's a great family home but they just want to opportunistically get their dick wet? Have a think.

Sums it up nicely - they are hardly going to tell you their wife is great are they

SnippitySnappitySnop · 12/05/2025 11:27

what can I do to make them feel better?
Offer NSA sex and total discretion in your own accommodation?

He's like a vampire, feeding off your energy to boost his ego. He isn't trapped, he's a grown man who chooses to stay and cheat. Why do you accept leftovers? Don't you want to be the main and chosen woman in a man's life than a dirty secret liaison?

Loopytiles · 12/05/2025 11:29

Setting aside the ethics, surely being single and/or exploring other options for dating would be better and easier for you than this?

Why choose this kind of shit?

Odds of him being wonderful to be in a relationship with short, medium and long term are not good!

waterrat · 12/05/2025 11:31

Op - if this man is unhappy in a relationship with the mother of his children - he has several choices. Absolutely none of them should be cheating or slagging off his partner to someone else, putting his energy outside the family unit.

he could have therapy - he could tell his wife they need to split or work on the relationship - his energy should be going INWARDS into the relationship in whatever way required to either fix it or end it on good terms.

Nobody is trapped - half of all marriages end in divorce it's completely normal to leave an unhappy relationship

yes of course any parent will feel huge sadness at breaking up the family unit - but the respectful way to deal with that is not to focus on an affair partner is it?? you know that.

80smonster · 12/05/2025 11:45

My wife doesn’t understand (that I’m a lying pig). A tale as old as time.

Wiglio · 12/05/2025 11:52

OP you have received brilliant replies to your post on here

livelovelough24 · 12/05/2025 23:50

waterrat · 12/05/2025 11:31

Op - if this man is unhappy in a relationship with the mother of his children - he has several choices. Absolutely none of them should be cheating or slagging off his partner to someone else, putting his energy outside the family unit.

he could have therapy - he could tell his wife they need to split or work on the relationship - his energy should be going INWARDS into the relationship in whatever way required to either fix it or end it on good terms.

Nobody is trapped - half of all marriages end in divorce it's completely normal to leave an unhappy relationship

yes of course any parent will feel huge sadness at breaking up the family unit - but the respectful way to deal with that is not to focus on an affair partner is it?? you know that.

THIS!
I find it difficult to understand how some women get caught up in situations like this. You're involved with someone who is married and has children—how does that feel right? Imagine if the roles were reversed, and it was your husband spending time with another woman while lamenting that he feels trapped. Would you be okay with that? How would it make you feel?

Copperoliverbear · 12/05/2025 23:59

They all say that love, when they’re trying to get in someone’s knickers, stay away.

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TheLimeQuail · 13/05/2025 18:08

He seems to be avoiding me more now anyway. Will not wave if he sees me in his car. Will act like I’m not there

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foreverblowingbubbless · 13/05/2025 18:40

TheLimeQuail · 13/05/2025 18:08

He seems to be avoiding me more now anyway. Will not wave if he sees me in his car. Will act like I’m not there

He's doing that because he really loves you 🙄

TwistedWonder · 13/05/2025 18:41

TheLimeQuail · 13/05/2025 18:08

He seems to be avoiding me more now anyway. Will not wave if he sees me in his car. Will act like I’m not there

So you’ve literally not taken the unanimous posts onboard and still believe he’s genuine.

Dear God 🤦‍♀️

Sassybooklover · 13/05/2025 18:44

Stay well away, and don't get involved on any level. It's a tale as old as time - man is unhappy in his relationship, can't leave for a variety of reasons etc. You don't know if what he's saying is true. The truth is, if he truly is that unhappy, he could leave, but he chooses not too. So, life can't be that bad!!

Sherry1978 · 13/05/2025 19:23

arethereanyleftatall · 11/05/2025 21:51

You want to make someone who is cheating on their wife and children feel better?!? Why?

Cause she's a 'pick me' girl

WayneEyre · 13/05/2025 19:27

Meh stay out of it. Plenty of available men. This one isn't your problem. He can find himself a counsellor. Please do not provide this service or more to a man making noises about cheating on his wife. Where does that leave you?

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TheLimeQuail · 15/05/2025 22:22

I am getting mixed signals from him.
I’ve thought about it a bit. There are problems in any relationship. If he left her any new relationship would have their own problems. Also he doesn’t speak well of her.
I don’t think he’s suitable which is disappointing because I feel an attraction for him but I will find someone else.

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Agapornis · 15/05/2025 22:38

Maybe work on your skills of recognising suitable men before you decide on someone. E.g. must be single, not actively avoiding you, doesn't talk negatively about current or previous relationships, doesn't 'need' rescuing.

The mind boggles at finding someone with those characteristics attractive.

Justhere65 · 15/05/2025 22:41

Surely you are not that desperate for a man are you?

owlyboo · 15/05/2025 22:47

Men can be bastards. He’s doing this. No one is trapped. If
he wants to leave he should. Be he doesn’t want to leave alone
so he’s lining up his next person. If you morally think this is okay crack on. Personally I find it disgusting

itsmeits · 15/05/2025 22:49

TheLimeQuail · 15/05/2025 22:22

I am getting mixed signals from him.
I’ve thought about it a bit. There are problems in any relationship. If he left her any new relationship would have their own problems. Also he doesn’t speak well of her.
I don’t think he’s suitable which is disappointing because I feel an attraction for him but I will find someone else.

Mix signals his wife is probably getting suspicious.
Yes you are correct married men are not suitable.
Single or even divorced fine.
Never married, or living with the ex.

You will find someone else, hopefully without a partner.
Aim high OP don't aim to be the bit on the side, you deserve so much more than that.

whitewineandsun · 15/05/2025 22:51

Don't be this naive. Come on, OP.

TwistedWonder · 15/05/2025 22:55

You’re still not really getting it are you OP?

The reasons to bin him off are not because he sends mixed signals, ignores you or speaks unkindly about his wife - he’s not suitable because HE IS MARRIED

He could be the loveliest man in the world but he’s not single so you are a mug to even think about going there

EarthSight · 15/05/2025 23:01

A tale as old as time.