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How to split cost of Center Parcs with partner

143 replies

MidnightMummy · 10/04/2025 11:00

I am hoping to gain some outside perspective as my partner and I can't agree! We are planning on taking my two children to Center Parcs in the summer holidays. The cost of a 2 bed lodge is £1449 regardless of numbers. The cheapest way one person could visit it to stay in a hotel room for £549 (or £699 with self-catering facilities). He won't have been in the kids lives for long by that point but we have been seeing each other for over a year. How much should we each be paying?

OP posts:
GreenwayHouse · 10/04/2025 11:01

Split it into four - he's pays for his share and you pay for you and your 2 DC?

Maitri108 · 10/04/2025 11:03

He pays a quarter.

SparklyGlitterballs · 10/04/2025 11:03

I disagree. If it would cost him £700 to go there as a single person then go halves (or you pay the additional £49).

nwh · 10/04/2025 11:04

I'm male, if I was the male in this situation I'd pay half.

bigraspberry · 10/04/2025 11:05

Are you thinking he should pay what he would as a single person? Be honest - he wouldn't be going to Center Parc on his own. He is going to support you with your children. Why doesn't their Dad pay a contribution?

InternetUser · 10/04/2025 11:05

I was going to say he pays a third & you pay 2 thirds. The logic being the children count as half each. I don’t think there is a right way as such, just what you are both happy with. I think you should pay more than half as you should be paying for your children.

MerryBeret · 10/04/2025 11:06

The cost of accommodation for one person is totally irrelevant as it's not like you'd actually want to go to centre Parcs as a single adult!

If it's a holiday you want to go on, book it all anyway and pay for it, and then see if it's suitable for your partner to come nearer the time (if he's getting on with the kids etc). And if he comes, perhaps he can pay a small amount towards it, or shout you all some dinners or activities.

For a new partner, I'd see it like when I invite a grandparent to holiday with us-we cover all costs and maybe they get the kids some treats.

Different when you're living together/have been together several years and he's a permanent fixture in the kids lives.

mewkins · 10/04/2025 11:09

If he wants to go on holiday and is keen to go (rather than you twisting his arm), half or a significant contribution. If you would be going anyway and invited him to tag along to your holiday then ask him to cover food and travel or something and you pay for the accommodation.

Original poster
MidnightMummy · 10/04/2025 11:09

Lots of different opinions then!

For added context he has been to Center Parcs with adult friends / no children so it's not a holiday he wouldn't ever be going on otherwise.

OP posts:
McSpoot · 10/04/2025 11:10

MerryBeret · 10/04/2025 11:06

The cost of accommodation for one person is totally irrelevant as it's not like you'd actually want to go to centre Parcs as a single adult!

If it's a holiday you want to go on, book it all anyway and pay for it, and then see if it's suitable for your partner to come nearer the time (if he's getting on with the kids etc). And if he comes, perhaps he can pay a small amount towards it, or shout you all some dinners or activities.

For a new partner, I'd see it like when I invite a grandparent to holiday with us-we cover all costs and maybe they get the kids some treats.

Different when you're living together/have been together several years and he's a permanent fixture in the kids lives.

Agreed. No more than a quarter for him. You’d need a two room cabin even without him.

Hoppinggreen · 10/04/2025 11:13

I would say he should pay 1/4 and you should pay 3/4
There are 3 of you and 1 of him

TwoBlueFish · 10/04/2025 11:15

He should pay 1/4 for accomodation and if kids are small then probably 1/3 of food costs.

Do the kids want to go on holiday with him? If they haven’t spent much time with him yet then going from very little to 24hours a day for several days is really going in at the deep end.

BlondiePortz · 10/04/2025 11:15

bigraspberry · 10/04/2025 11:05

Are you thinking he should pay what he would as a single person? Be honest - he wouldn't be going to Center Parc on his own. He is going to support you with your children. Why doesn't their Dad pay a contribution?

You want the father for the op and her bf to have a holiday? Really?

idontunderstandwhy · 10/04/2025 11:17

I would split in half between the adults, couldn’t be bothering to work out exact detailed figures.

not a good sign for your relationship if you are arguing about money and your kids this early on.
obviously no one is forcing him to be with a woman with kids and to go on holiday with them, if he wants a cheap single holiday he should do that on his own.

out of curiosity how much do you both think you should pay?

Overthebow · 10/04/2025 11:19

3/4 for you, 1/4 for him. You’d need a 2 bed lodge regardless if he was coming or not, and they aren’t his kids. How old are your DC? You f he won’t have been in their lives that long will they really be comfortable going on holiday with him?

Newmeagain · 10/04/2025 11:20

To be honest, I think it would be nice if he paid half. It also depends on how you both see the future.

idontunderstandwhy · 10/04/2025 11:21

bigraspberry · 10/04/2025 11:05

Are you thinking he should pay what he would as a single person? Be honest - he wouldn't be going to Center Parc on his own. He is going to support you with your children. Why doesn't their Dad pay a contribution?

Why should their dad pay a contribution? He’s not going and it’s not his idea for his kids to go

LondonPapa · 10/04/2025 11:24

MidnightMummy · 10/04/2025 11:00

I am hoping to gain some outside perspective as my partner and I can't agree! We are planning on taking my two children to Center Parcs in the summer holidays. The cost of a 2 bed lodge is £1449 regardless of numbers. The cheapest way one person could visit it to stay in a hotel room for £549 (or £699 with self-catering facilities). He won't have been in the kids lives for long by that point but we have been seeing each other for over a year. How much should we each be paying?

So you want to charge him a single occupant share as if he’d go there without you? Seems stupid as he’s only going because of you and the kids - not really a place you go as a solo adult. Therefore, he should pay 25% of the cost as that is fair IMO.

DaisyChain505 · 10/04/2025 11:24

You pay 3/4 he pays 1/4. You are a unit of three. He is one person. He shouldn’t have to pay towards your children’s costs.

DaisyChain505 · 10/04/2025 11:28

idontunderstandwhy · 10/04/2025 11:17

I would split in half between the adults, couldn’t be bothering to work out exact detailed figures.

not a good sign for your relationship if you are arguing about money and your kids this early on.
obviously no one is forcing him to be with a woman with kids and to go on holiday with them, if he wants a cheap single holiday he should do that on his own.

out of curiosity how much do you both think you should pay?

If a man had written this thread and said he was going away with his two children and his new girlfriend and he thought she should pay for half of the holiday people would be up in arms.

It is very early days in this relationship, why should this man be forking out extra money for two children that aren’t his own and he doesn’t know that well.

ohdearagain2 · 10/04/2025 11:36

would he even be going to centre parcs if you had kids? he certainly wouldn't be booking a hotel room for one person so thats not relevant!

IhaveanewTVnow · 10/04/2025 11:39

MidnightMummy · 10/04/2025 11:09

Lots of different opinions then!

For added context he has been to Center Parcs with adult friends / no children so it's not a holiday he wouldn't ever be going on otherwise.

Yes but he probably split the cost with the other adults equally. I think you should pay 3/4. Otherwise if it was just the two of you, you would rent a one bedroom lodge.

Original poster
MidnightMummy · 10/04/2025 11:39

idontunderstandwhy · 10/04/2025 11:17

I would split in half between the adults, couldn’t be bothering to work out exact detailed figures.

not a good sign for your relationship if you are arguing about money and your kids this early on.
obviously no one is forcing him to be with a woman with kids and to go on holiday with them, if he wants a cheap single holiday he should do that on his own.

out of curiosity how much do you both think you should pay?

My initial thoughts had been I pay 2/3 and he 1/3.
He thought he should pay 1/4.
He does want to come on the holiday so that's why I am struggling with the quarter as it feels like I'm massively subsiding his holiday. We are also going away just the two of us later in the year and are splitting the cost equally.

Maybe it is too soon to be bringing him away with my children, so thank you for those who mentioned this.

OP posts:
Starlight1984 · 10/04/2025 11:40

ohdearagain2 · 10/04/2025 11:36

would he even be going to centre parcs if you had kids? he certainly wouldn't be booking a hotel room for one person so thats not relevant!

Yeah this. Very unlikely a single male with no kids would ever be going to Centre Parcs on holiday so I think anything more than 1/4 of the cost is unfair!

Having said that I probably wouldn't ask him to pay anything as you would have to get a 2 bedroom lodge regardless? So if you weren't together / he wasn't coming then you would be paying the exact same?

I would just ask him to pay for a few meals / activities and call it even!

Dweetfidilove · 10/04/2025 11:41

Pay the full amount and leave him behind.

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