How to split cost of Center Parcs with partner

[MidnightMummy]

I am hoping to gain some outside perspective as my partner and I can't agree! We are planning on taking my two children to Center Parcs in the summer holidays. The cost of a 2 bed lodge is £1449 regardless of numbers. The cheapest way one person could visit it to stay in a hotel room for £549 (or £699 with self-catering facilities). He won't have been in the kids lives for long by that point but we have been seeing each other for over a year. How much should we each be paying?

I would be running for the hills if I was him and you expected me to contribute to your kids so early on in a relationship

But he wouldn’t be going on his own would he?

How is it subsidising his holiday for him to pay 1/4 of the cost of 4 people going on holiday?!

You sound like you’d like him to subsidise your holiday.

Technically he wouldn’t be going to CP alone. So his cost of the room would be max £350.

He’s paying £362 for his share of the lodge, so it’s about right.

Depending on age of children, food for the lodge should be split differently, but I wouldn’t expect him to pay for their meals out etc

Nothing
You inviting him on a kids holiday he will presumably help you with overseeing the kids.
While there he can buy food etc

He wouldn’t go as a single person, though, the price of the hotel room would be split between him and the other adult he is going with.

OP, he should pay 1/4

He should pay for 1/4 of the accommodation costs. And for his own food (whatever his portion of the cost of that is)

Split the lodge cost 50/50, you pick up the
majority of costs for food and activities.

if it was just you and the 2 kids you would need a 2 bed anyway (unless one of them is under 2), so a quarter contribution from him would be the fairest and you’d be better off.

I think that's the best thing to do - if he's quibbling about the difference between a quarter/a third imagine what he'll be like at each meal out or every time you buy an ice cream!

I think this is unfair.

You could argue it's the OP quibbling

It’s a bit cringe to be quibbling in this manner especially so early on. I’d either cover all the cost of accommodation and ask him to sort food/petrol if you do want him to go or tbh I would just not take him and maybe ask a friend along if you just want some adult company?

I am going away with my DH and my children, his step children, I am paying 3/4 and he is paying 1/4.

They are my children, I pay. I wouldn't even consider him paying half.

I’d be put off by the whole conversation of haggling. If you’re in a serious relationship then IMO you should be paying half each.

I’d say it’s the other way round with the quibbling. Ops first post focusses only on what he would have to pay going solo, and nothing at all about what she would have to pay going with just her kids - all of it.

I know you’ve sorted it out now but why do you think he should have paid a third ? He should have paid 1/4 as he is a 1/4 of the guests.

He pays a quarter. This is not a holiday for him.

I would rethink the relationship on the basis he has paid to go to center parcs with no children. This blows my mind.

I'd have him pay a third. Adults always have to pay more than children.

I’d say he pays 1/3 and you 2/3 . That’s what dh and I did in early stages

If this were me and my partner, I'd expect him to pay half. If he doesn't or won't, I will be questioning the seriousness of the relationship with this man ie ok for fun but not for long term.

Half it between the adults. I’m away with sister, BIL, their two kids & my dad next week and we’ve split it four ways. Wouldn’t dream of charging the kids!

A quarter.

He gets to share a bathroom, kitchen and lounge with you and your pocket monsters. It's very different than a quiet break away on his own.

If he had offered more then good on him, but I think a quarter is a fair price to ask for.

Nothing.
It's not costing any extra in accommodation for him to join you so I wouldn't expect him to pay.
I would expect him to pay his fair share for food etc.

You did the right thing OP - I think it's tight AF he didn't offer to go half. We always split everything by adults in our family. If I was going with a friend and her two kids, I would pay half.

Some people have low standards for men. Apparently we should be grateful any man would want to go out with a single mum so they should lighten their load.

Why?
There's lots of stuff for adults to do at center parcs.