New partner size

[Codworddonkey]

So I have a new man - lovely guy and want to sleep with him but he’s ahem - hung. Slightly terrified it’s going to hurt / not be great. My ex was just above average and it was perfect never hurt just loads of Os. Could go all in.Quickies were fine. Length is more what I’m worried about tbh as I can’t imagine any more fitting! Any tips or words or reassurance would’ve great as my friend had a large boyf in her twenties and hated it so I’ve only got that in my head!

Babies come out of there, a penis is not going to be a problem

yes and it’s fucking agony. Clearly a man I see.

Proper foreplay and easing into penetrarion will allow your vagina to lengthen and cervix moves up to accomodate. Your friend in her twenties most likely had an inconsiderate lover who went at his own pace and depth thrusting away at the poor girl

No actually, never been a man and not one now.

Unless his cock is baby sized which I highly doubt it's not going to hurt.

Sorry, but this is not true. If you're not prepared, a massive cock can really hurt! And I've had 2 babies.

Also, a word to the wise - in my not inconsiderable experience, men with big ones can be a bit shit in bed. They don't feel like they have to do anything other than let you worship how big they are.

#notallbigcocks

Just have lots of foreplay, make sure your lubricated and take it slowly.

No one said anything about being unprepared, and two of my LTPs were well over average.

Sex at any size can be painful

That I agree with, some just rely on size

If you do it right and he is considerate it can be amazing - does not have to hurt. If it hurts he is doing it wrong.

you are clearly not over your EX if you are making comparisons like this.

This is nonsense. Your body changes during your pregnancy, changes during the process of giving birth,

@Codworddonkey Just ask him to take it slowly and gently and see how it goes. In my experience has got more to do with their approach than the actual size.

Enjoy!!

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My dh is large.
An ex was nn The Roller (as in paint roller) behind his back obviously...
No issues at all.

I’ve had two babies and one or two large cocks. Clearly childbirth was significantly more painful but that’s not to say that a large penis can’t be uncomfortable.

There are certain positions which allow for deeper penetration than others. I sought to avoid them. Problem solved as far as I was concerned. I hope it works out well for you!

What a fucking stupid comment.

Lube and the right angle of entry, take it slow to start

I can't believe some people actually make this analogy. 🙄 The fact that 'a baby comes out of there,' does not mean that an overly large penis (and a bit of a lack of lubrication) isn't going to hurt. Everything 'down there' changes when a baby is about to come out.

From a simple Google search...

A woman's vagina and surrounding tissues undergo significant changes during pregnancy and childbirth, including swelling, discoloration, increased blood flow, and stretching of the vaginal tissues to accommodate the baby's passage

Hormones like estrogen increase blood flow to the vagina, making the tissues more elastic and prepared for stretching during childbirth.

Ergo, the fact that a woman gives birth to a baby via her vagina, that doesn't mean a huge penis won't hurt her sometimes.

You haven’t slept with him yet - have you actually seen it?

Because if he’s simply told you about it, or sent you a picture that he could very easily have just got from the internet, I would take his words with a pinch of salt.

Anyway. You’ll likely be fine, unless it’s the size of a rounders bat or something. Just make sure you’re, er, really ready to go, as it were.

My DP is on the larger side but has always been extremely considerate. Lots of foreplay and lube and he is very mindful to be gentle with me because at times it can be painful especially if it’s too vigorous. He would genuinely be mortified if he knew I was in pain or discomfort and takes every care to make sure all of my needs are met. If he’s as nice a man as you say he is then he will want you to experience as much pleasure as he does and wouldn’t want you to be in pain or uncomfortable.

I love your username! 😆

Plenty of foreplay, go slow especially when he enters you the first time, and wait a little before he starts to move, so you get used to his size. Certain positions can be more uncomfortable, but it depends on you as an individual. Your body will adapt pretty quickly! Just enjoy!! 😉

Having your cervix battered when he's really deep is not fabulous. Different positions certainly help.

Size does matter, just not the way men think.

I can’t take a huge one. It’s length that’s the problem rather than width, before anyone accuses me of some weird stealth boast. I think my cervix is low and I am super short so maybe it’s just in proportion. Even with average partners I can’t have my legs over their shoulders with deep penetration no matter how aroused and lubricated I am. It’s really not comfortable at all to the point of pain.

Given we are all blessed with differences in other organs and appendages and there is a huge variation in men’s penises, it would hardly be a surprise for women’s vaginal length to differ between individuals so we can’t extrapolate from any one woman’s experience.

OP I’d be nervous too but if you trust and fancy him I’d be willing to give it a go but I’d have sex sooner rather than later to find out! I’d absolutely warn him I was nervous about his size to to take it slow and you’ll let him know if it’s too much.

I agree. A big penis can be really painful and uncomfortable, especially with continuous penetration.