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New partner size

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Codworddonkey · 04/04/2025 20:45

So I have a new man - lovely guy and want to sleep with him but he’s ahem - hung. Slightly terrified it’s going to hurt / not be great. My ex was just above average and it was perfect never hurt just loads of Os. Could go all in.Quickies were fine. Length is more what I’m worried about tbh as I can’t imagine any more fitting! Any tips or words or reassurance would’ve great as my friend had a large boyf in her twenties and hated it so I’ve only got that in my head!

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LovelySG · 05/04/2025 21:25

Try going on top initially and then you might be able to control the rate of penetration a bit better

Gymbunny2025 · 05/04/2025 21:34

I had an ex with a well above average one. Every time he thrust a bit too hard it hurt. As long as I was in control it was fine… but for many reasons including his size I’m glad he’s an ex

PodgePie · 05/04/2025 21:43

Some people aren’t a good match sexually but if you take it slowly & make sure you’re ready then it could be wonderful.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 06/04/2025 04:29

Codworddonkey · 05/04/2025 18:00

Did it! He just left as he’s going out with work mates but swing him tomorrow again. Was so good! But fuck me no way that thing is ever going all the way in! Not a chance! Def above average girth- length too much lol. He had to be careful no to go too deep. Pelvis to pelvis contact will be impossible in missionary! But yea - thanks ladies 😍 didn't hurt but mainly because he was careful not to!

I suggest the OhNut. Takes the thinking about it out of not going too deep.

Silverbook55 · 06/04/2025 06:25

TranceNation · 05/04/2025 06:59

How would you know how big it is without dtd in the first place?

Eyes….hands….🤷‍♀️

StartAnew · 06/04/2025 06:28

MarkingBad · 04/04/2025 20:54

No actually, never been a man and not one now.

Unless his cock is baby sized which I highly doubt it's not going to hurt.

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? Have you not heard of women finding penetration painful? It’s common.

User1253S367484 · 06/04/2025 08:51

ChronicallyOnLime · 05/04/2025 21:16

I’m still confused by this. There’s nowhere for a penis to go past a cervix really? Have any of you actually seen a cervix/base of a cervix.

might be worth familiarising yourselves by going to the beautiful cervix project website. Very interesting and informative.

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Have you? Look at this picture and have think.

Sam820 · 06/04/2025 09:06

Codworddonkey · 04/04/2025 20:45

So I have a new man - lovely guy and want to sleep with him but he’s ahem - hung. Slightly terrified it’s going to hurt / not be great. My ex was just above average and it was perfect never hurt just loads of Os. Could go all in.Quickies were fine. Length is more what I’m worried about tbh as I can’t imagine any more fitting! Any tips or words or reassurance would’ve great as my friend had a large boyf in her twenties and hated it so I’ve only got that in my head!

take things slow and adapt. I think hung guys are defo lucky, and often so too are the ladies they go with

Poorhouse188 · 06/04/2025 09:11

ChronicallyOnLime · 05/04/2025 21:16

I’m still confused by this. There’s nowhere for a penis to go past a cervix really? Have any of you actually seen a cervix/base of a cervix.

might be worth familiarising yourselves by going to the beautiful cervix project website. Very interesting and informative.

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the cervix is towards end of the vaginal canal but on the ceiling if that makes sense! There is a little space behind called the posterior fornix which is accessible when the cervix lifts out of the way during arousal allow for deep penetration. When people say it hurts I think more often than not it’s that there no more space in the fornix so they’re pushing against the end of the vaginal canal.

QueefQueen80s · 06/04/2025 10:10

Boreded · 05/04/2025 00:09

Are you serious? You realise the pain isn’t from the stretching around the girth but from the bumping against your cervix from the length. One unfortunate thrust too deep and it could be agony…don’t comment if you have no clue.

@Codworddonkey unless he is young, chances are he has enough experience of how to avoid discomfort for his partner, but just talk it through and avoid the positions where he would get too deep.

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It is the girth for me that hurts, can’t get a big one in. And then yes pain if they’re too long too.

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