New partner size

[Codworddonkey]

So I have a new man - lovely guy and want to sleep with him but he’s ahem - hung. Slightly terrified it’s going to hurt / not be great. My ex was just above average and it was perfect never hurt just loads of Os. Could go all in.Quickies were fine. Length is more what I’m worried about tbh as I can’t imagine any more fitting! Any tips or words or reassurance would’ve great as my friend had a large boyf in her twenties and hated it so I’ve only got that in my head!

I’ve got experience with someone huge in length and girth. He was very aware of himself and took his time to make sure I was ready and could accommodate any position change. I never had an issue with him, quite the opposite! Whereas significantly smaller (inches smaller) people have caused me pain by banging away with no regard to me. Less about size, more about skill and sensitivity of the partner.

Not necessarily. I've been with men of dofferent shapes and sizes and even going slowly with a particular man was just too painful. It was too long 🤦‍♀️ most painful sex I've ever had. It felt like it was in my belly button and not in a good way.

Sorry, are you severely miseducated? A baby takes the length of the vaginal canal, through the cervix and beyond. What has a baby got to do with anything? Are you aware that a penis doesn’t pass through the cervix during sex? Did you read that OP is concerned about length, not girth? Are you aware that a penis hitting the cervix that easily is painful for most women?

Go get a sex education book.

Thanks guys! I have felt it lol not seen yet. I’ve no doubt he’ll go slow I’m sure it will be fine. Just hope I find I can climax with him eventually! Fingers crossed legs akimbo

Ok cervix, time to dilate..

I'm pretty sure my vagina is under average internal length, at least now anyway, but I had a boyfriend with an 8" dick (I measured it, I wanted to know) and jfc it didn't matter how ready I was, what we did, it hurt.

I love girth. But length can be difficult regardless of readiness. It's a matter of looking up positions suitable.

And there's loads you can do with a longer dick that aren't easy or possible at all with an average or smaller dick.

Not true, it can be so painful!

We need a diagram ( with dimensions)

Would it help to keep your mouth open?

@MarkingBad is right op: just book a midwife to shout “ breathe” and “ it’s nearly there.”

Possibly an epidural?

Well it can hurt with someone who is…blessed of size!

Anxiety probably plays a part, but yes, it can be TOO big.

And some women, forgive me, are “smaller” than others and find it more difficult to be with larger partners.

You can’t possibly speak for every woman when you say it won’t hurt.

Thanks for your suggestion.

I've made reference to my initial career and my education in that particular area elsewhere as well as my sexual experiences with larger men prior to this thread. From your and others responses and suggestions you've obvioulsy not come across those.

Are you serious? You realise the pain isn’t from the stretching around the girth but from the bumping against your cervix from the length. One unfortunate thrust too deep and it could be agony…don’t comment if you have no clue.

@Codworddonkey unless he is young, chances are he has enough experience of how to avoid discomfort for his partner, but just talk it through and avoid the positions where he would get too deep.

As I said previously on this thread sex with any size penis can hurt.

Yes I do have a clue and a question is asked on an open forum, anyone can comment and I am open to challenges to that too.

You have a right to challenge, but not a right to tell others to not comment.

I know a drunk, bored, (male) student post when I read one.

Only had this with one guy and not an issue for me. He was into coke and two bloody hours later, with no end in sight we called it quits... 🤪

Your career and personal experience have no relevance to other women’s feelings. Sex is not childbirth.

How would you know how big it is without dtd in the first place?

You’ll only find out if you try tbh. I absolutely disagree that it can be comfortable with all sizes. The vaginal canal varies in length and width as much as penises do and sometimes they’re just not compatible.

He’s coming over this arvo so will update later.

A friend once remarked that men with big cocks tend to think that's all they need. Like putting on a party with a magnum of champaign & no nibbles. 😂

From your and others responses and suggestions you've obvioulsy not come across those.

Pardon the pun 😂

I went on a few dates with a man who was massive. Sexually we were not compatible, it never didn’t hurt. We’re good friends now, and it’s a real shame because he’s a lovely guy, but we never managed.

possibly not what you wanted to hear.

I can’t handle big ones, can’t get them in no matter how much foreplay. People who relate them to babies are insane.