New partner size

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So I have a new man - lovely guy and want to sleep with him but he’s ahem - hung. Slightly terrified it’s going to hurt / not be great. My ex was just above average and it was perfect never hurt just loads of Os. Could go all in.Quickies were fine. Length is more what I’m worried about tbh as I can’t imagine any more fitting! Any tips or words or reassurance would’ve great as my friend had a large boyf in her twenties and hated it so I’ve only got that in my head!

I had the same trepidations with now DH. Everybody is different but once I managed to relax it was fine. I don’t get my cervix bashed so maybe I’m different. It seems to go past and hit the end deep inside. Which is nice.

The vagina isn’t a fixed size like some seem to believe.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/blog/i-know-a-vagina-can-stretch-in-width-but-can-it-stretch-in-depth#:~:text=Vaginas%20are%20like%20tubes%20with,to%20four%20to%20eight%20inches.

Thanks! When I had sex with ex it wen past cervix and that’s what gives me orgasms but I def felt I was at capacity if that makes sense. Maybe the new fella will just have to not go fully in! Tbh should start doing ‘fill to here’ temporary tattoos like on pot noodles 😜

If it bursts then you need to be more 'wet' so more foreplay is needed to turn you on or you use lube.

In any case, giving birth to a baby can be incredibly painful and physically damaging.

Exactly! So the comparison is literally saying you can fit a big one, it’ll be painful but it’ll fit! Such a weird thing to say

If it bursts?! Wtf? 😳

Even when I’m fully turned on and loads of lube a big one won’t go in.

Nah, you’re alright.

It went ‘past your cervix’?

Oh dear…some of the comments here are just embarrassing. Get a biology book ladies 😂

Haha I think this was meant to be hurts but a nice autocorrect fail

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Yep,
never heard of a women giving birth through an un-dilated cervix 🤦🏼‍♀️

heard plenty of times women are in agony from anyone trying to bump something solid, repeatedly, against an un-dilated cervix like a large penis, or god forbid, push through it into the uterus with a coil, camera or whatever. Cervix are designed to be a pretty secure barrier for larger objects to stop babies falling out!

seems like comment made by someone who doesn’t understand anatomy or childbirth 🙄🤷‍♀️

god forbid, push through it into the uterus with a coil

Just being reminded of that pain triggered a moment of vaginismus and nausea.

Women's vaginas all vary in size and shape.

Plenty of lube needed.

Width is the issue often not length.

Ok, call me old fashioned but I thought flaccid penis varied hugely in size, but erect penises were by and large (boom boom) less variable, cos survival of fittest means they need to do the job intended with a women that could at least be penetrated successfully?
so question is has OP seen said erect penis to know for sure it is much larger than average? Or is he just saying this, or has a huge flaccid one.

if the potential member has not been personally viewed in an erect status, I’d be inclined to cross a bridge when op does see it, and then proceed cautiously with lube.

They vary in size irrespective of flaccid or erect.

The posters suggesting that a large penis is easy to handle or similar to having a baby, obviously have never been with anyone with a large dick.

Pushing a baby out of your vagina with no pain relief is one of the most painful experiences anyone can ever go through.
You would not choose to do this regularly for please.

I had multiple stitches from pushing a baby out and I’ve never had that from sex.

Tell him to take it slowly OP.

From my experience gentle sex was great but I would have thrown up if he full on pounded me with the full length of it.
I found I would need to be on top most of the time and I couldn’t have sex regularly as I’d need to recover.

Definitely don’t let it stop you but if anyone says that big penis’ are fine or don’t hurt then they’re either lying, have never had a big penis in them or are built like the Grand Canyon 😉

Did it! He just left as he’s going out with work mates but swing him tomorrow again. Was so good! But fuck me no way that thing is ever going all the way in! Not a chance! Def above average girth- length too much lol. He had to be careful no to go too deep. Pelvis to pelvis contact will be impossible in missionary! But yea - thanks ladies 😍 didn't hurt but mainly because he was careful not to!

Glad you didn’t have any hiccups. Sounds like he’s one of the good ones…

It must be frustrating as a man not being able to go all the way.. as a woman I love that groin to groin feeling. But if you really like someone you make it work! Glad you enjoyed OP

Exactly this! But yeah he’s worth the effort- we spooned as well which was great not felt much before with ex in that position so looking forward to trying some new positions where maybe I didn’t feel much before.

Have fun! 🤣♥️

Past. Not through.

I’m still confused by this. There’s nowhere for a penis to go past a cervix really? Have any of you actually seen a cervix/base of a cervix.

might be worth familiarising yourselves by going to the beautiful cervix project website. Very interesting and informative.