Boyfriend refusing STI test

[ColdSpring25]

Been together 4 years, found out he was dating apps at the end and ended it. He’s now started communication again and I told him that it will alleviate a lot of my anxiety if he would do an STI test (he does not use condoms). I’ve just done one which came back clear. I told him that I could buy him a home kit and that I can’t consider sex without it, but He is adamant he’s not doing one and said to stop bullying him into something he doesn’t want to do. 1. I don’t understand his reluctance? 2. I can’t bring myself to be intimate with him without it, so what’s the point of reconciliation? I’m conflicted because I adored this man and thought he was the one I was going to spend my life with.

I don’t understand why you want him to do an STI test and sleep with him again? You’re not together anymore, you’re clean, he has no respect for you. Just move on and find someone else to have sex with? There’s more than him out there and you can’t be that desperate, surely? MN never ceases to amaze me 😂

It’s a booty call and you’ve put a barrier up. He’s not who you want him to be. There is someone else who will be nice and also not try and cheat on you.

I know a guy in his 50s who's slept with hundreds of women. He's calmed a little now but spent his late teens to late30s early 40s just having one night stands and casual flings.
Never used a condom. It's mad.

I'm glad you're clear OP.
Make sure you stay that way and stay away from him!

There'll be other nice men out there.

Some will dip the nozzle in the tank for you without dipping their dick in other women simultaneously.

Sorry, I should’ve said EX-boyfriend, and that he wants to rekindle a relationship a few weeks after I ended it. But may well be a booty call. 💁🏻‍♀️
(To PP went to a clinic for a blood draw)

He won’t use condoms or take STI tests. I’m almost lost for words, toxic. Toxic in it’s most basic sense, like sewage but with pus

I used to use condoms and have a STI test after every sexual partner. It's sexually irresponsible no to.

Then it's your boundary why do you need confirmation you know he's an arse it's another form of Stelthing stick to him being an ex

If you take him back, you're a glutton for punishment! No STI test = no sex full stop.

Yeh I ain't heard of my X since telling him to take a test his breath stinks he goes abroad a lot shagging God knows what men women sleeps around multiple women pregnant sumone said would u allow your daughter to be treated this way and the answer is obviously not. Good bye I feel sorry for this new or old woman his with the cracks will fall but the main thing is he isn't my problem anymore and I can actually get my life back which feels really good xx

Oh, I totally agree with you! I think I worded it badly. I meant the process, a pin prick, a swab, is easy. And would show that he cares about the OP’s health and well-being. Which is massive.