Boyfriend has dumped me 10 days after dad passing away

[BoldViper]

Hiya I need some advice
My father passed away 12days ago, I've been struggling emotionally and the man that claimed loved me has today decided to end the relationship, it was early days only 6 months in but apparently it was too much for him and causing him stress.
I do feel a little resentful that he's done this while I'm trying to navigate my way through.
Am I selfish? Should I be more understanding?
Please be honest. My emotions have been up and down I know i ain't been perfect but I am trying

Found the man ☝️

Too emotional after your dad died? This man is a grade A arsehole. Focus on yourself and be glad he couldn't manage to hide his immaturity any longer and waste more of your time.

^ Yeah, this.

It’s better to find out early that your partner isn’t going to support you when you really need it.

That’s a lot to deal with, though. Hope you’re OK xx

Sooooo much courage to blame someone for being emotional her dad died.

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Agreed.

Yes, you could have.

You could've tossed him back earlier

If you think about it, this won't be the first display of his self scented attitude.

he didn't love you he just said that get into your knickers or your good books. He loves himself and that's the end of it.

I am so sorry to hear about your dad passing. My dad did too and I still miss him every day.

When my dad died, I was single. A couple of exes did various very thoughtful things. They were exes. This chump isn't a bloke who have your back so there's no point in him.

You didn't do anything wrong at all this is a him problem not a you problem, said time to learn he's such a disappointment but better than further down the line when maybe you'd have children together or you had an illness yourself.

Stop thinking that you were the problem and start realising that actually you've had a lucky break here. You don't need him.
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Who is talking about blame? No one is blaming anyone.
What’s the alternative? Carrying on with the relationship while pretending everything is fine?
Of course, it takes courage—it’s really hard to admit how you feel, especially given the dramatic circumstances.
Even the OP admits he’s not a bad person. Many posters seem to think that by bashing this guy, they’re doing OP a favour, but in reality, it’s quite the opposite.

I've had joints in the freezer longer than you've known him.

Focus on grieving for your Dad and dealing with that loss xx

Please block him forever and concentrate on yourself and your family.

This man taking even a minute more of your thought is a minute you could have spent on yourself and starting to process the grief of a man you knew for a a lifetime. Don't waste your thoughts on a man you knew for 6 months.

I really feel for you 💐 and I hope you have other real life support. It's shit times.

I think if he can't support you at this time of grief then he wasn't that invested in the relationship anyway and you are better off without him.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. I've been there (9 years ago for me) and I know how hard it is. Lean on your close friends and family and look after each other. It does get easier to bear in time, you never get over the loss but you learn to live alongside it 💐

Definitely a lucky escape and as much as it hurts at least you’ve found out sooner rather than later and won’t waste time on someone who can’t be what you need.

Urgh what a shit. I’m sorry. You deserve better.

I think we can all agree you’ll view this dumping in a very positive light in the not too distant future. What a horrible human being, thank god you won’t waste your life with him.

That.

If you grieving your father is to much for him, he'd to cope with, never mind support you during any bumps along the road that you might meet. And you can guarantee that should he have had any losses etc if you were still together, it would be a whole different story.

I can't believe what I just read.

Presumably you'd also say that those men who leave when their wives get cancer or become disabled, are courageous, too.

Unbelievable..

Oh no, no, no - none of that thinking sweetheart! Of course you talk to the people you love about a loss like this, of course you're going to be emotional, no you couldn't and shouldn't have done anything different.
I'm sorry both for your loss and that the man you thought this cunt was doesn't actually exist. Let the trash take itself out and focus on what's important right now which is you, how you feel and what comes next with things like funeral planning. Rally good people around you who understand that someone who's just been bereaved will obviously be emotional.
Take it a day at a time. Feel everything you need to feel. As much as possible waste no energy or emotion on your terrible ex. Sadly he won't realise what a shit he's been until he's facing his own loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. This so called man has done you a favour, you've found out what an idiot he is before wasting too much of your life on him

I’m judging him! Ten days after the loss of OP’s father and telling her she’s “too emotional” is a pretty crappy thing to do. He could have waited a bit and not told her she was too emotional. She’s just lost her dad!

OP - I’m so sorry that this has happened. Not what you needed when you needed support. And yes, it was new relationship but I don’t think that’s an excuse to treat you the way he’s treated you. Plenty of men would have been there to support their girlfriends or partners after a short time. My exDP was awful after I lost my dad because the attention wasn’t on him. I sympathise.

The timing is terrible and must be compounding your grief and I’m so sorry. It sounds very trite but please be kind to yourself. I hope you have friends and family around who can support you.

Any decent person would have waited at least a month longer.
If you can’t stand to be with someone who’s sad that their parent died, you can’t date humans.
He’s not a good person, he’s just able to act like one in the short term. A good person would be incapable of doing this.

Don't let him come crawling back when things are going well again. He's shown you he's not quality partner material and only wants something enjoyable and easy for him and life isn't always like that. He sounds more like a casual thing or a friend with benefits not a partner.

Sorry about your dad. Perhaps your ex had plans to break up before your dad passed and you were unaware. It would never have been the right time to end it and better now than him stringing you along. It could have been too much for him early on if he wasnt really in to it anyway. No one's fault.

I also expect if roles were revered the op
Would be advised to end things if she wasn't into the relationship

Yeah maybe - but would she call him ”too emotional” for being sad and initiate the breakup 10 days after the bereavement. Hmm probably not.

So your point is just silly whataboutery frankly. It’s not the situation and adds no insight.

life is hard. if he called you too emotional at this extremely emotional time you are much better off without him. I am so sorry for your loss.

He's a fair weather boyfriend, all good if things are fun and happy . At least you know he's not your one now so you don't waste further time.