Quick question

[Robynroo]

Can anyone follow multiple accounts on TikTok accidentally ?

Maybe he doesn't think he's done anything wrong; maybe you wouldn't either if you knew exactly what happened. Is there anything else difficult between you and this is literally the only thing that concerns you about the way he behaves?

Exactly it’s not unreasonable for me to want to know. What I can’t understand is why he wouldn’t be desperate to find out too if innocent.
His anger is an issue when we fall out and I recently had a conversation with him about lack of adult communication.
There is also his lack of interest in sex with me and now I probably know why that is.

I’ve searched on TikTok and some people say it can happen as some sort of glitch but I dunno.

I know you want answers but I think you are going to believe whatever you want to believe.
I don't know any adults who use tik tok. It's predominantly youngsters so can't help with that, but why would an adult want to use it on that basis?
I had heard some adult users were promoting only fans accounts on it. I'd be interested in the blank accounts he follows?

If you want to check, you need access to his bank statements.
I don't like how he puts you back in your box regardless.

I just got home. He’s not speaking to me.
if he was innocent why would he be so angry.
I cannot access his banking stuff as he has separate account and it’s all paperless .

So this is part of something bigger, a lack of intimacy and communication. If it's not possible to have a proper conversation, would you consider going to couples counselling together? It sounds a bit of an impasse at the moment.

So I have tried to initiate a conversation and he has been so shouty as usual and defensive and he is projecting it onto me. I’m awful to live with etc.
looks like that is it then so now I don’t know what I can do or where to go 😭😭

He was still insisting it’s auto follow. I asked my teenager who said that’s not true. I just looked and he has deleted them except for one of the banned accounts.
It’s over and I am going to be homeless once the house sells as I can’t afford much on my wage.
My whole world is over

Anyone around?

I’m a tiktoker. Never heard of this auto-following thing. I’d feel blue in the face with frustration at his behavior. If he was innocent he’d show you his phone and unpack how it works instead of running, stonewalling, blaming, etc.

He is saying that he wasn’t going through the app and only through web browser to scroll so couldn’t see who he was following but I don’t know if this is possible.

I also often don’t use the app and use the browser. Not sure what that changes vis a vis this auto-following nonsense. Anyway if someone told me that I’d expect them to show me their feed. What’s the algorithm giving them? Show me their TikTok and it will reveal a lot of what they do on TikTok. The fact he left before he offered means he probably did something to cover his tracks. To me he acts like someone who isn’t trying to gain your trust but is trying to cover his ass.

He says his son said it happens when men sign up for TikTok very often .
He quickly showed me a scroll on his for you page and I couldn’t immediately see anything but when u click on his following page it’s full of women. So how could he not know.
He said to me yesterday when denying it how would I feel if he was following these young women and I said if you were I would think you’re a pervert. He has latched on to this and is now saying he didn’t ask this and I’ve made it up and how dare I call him that. Which is a total contradiction.

Also he’s said some awful things to me such as I nag him all the time. Which I truly don’t think I do and he has nothing in common with me anymore.

So upsetting for you. You would think he would be keen to discuss it with you and reassure you, not get angry with you especially as he knows what your ex did. Then to make it worse he starts saying you nag him and you have nothing in common anymore. He is turning it all back on to you.

I do not use it but my 20 something year old son seems to think there is no auto follow and even if it was a glitch, it would be unlikely to follow numerous accounts of the same type, as I think a previous poster said also. He also said once following an account their content will show up on your feed so you would then probably realise you were following them and delete if it was by accident/glitch.

I hope you are ok.

I keep thinking it must be a mistake or hoping that but either way I can’t see a way back from all this.
He even used my ex cheating against me and said he wasn’t him but I’ve never thought that or been paranoid before. He knows what it took me to trust him.
I don’t know how I will rebuild me life honestly.

Please don't believe him. I caught my ex with 150+ young girls on TikTok, following them 'out of interest'.
Funny how most of them looked cheap and nasty, jumping around with their tits out etc.
I made him delete his account, 40 year old man on TikTok FFS!!
But of course he couldn't help himself and the situation was repeated on Instagram, and then dating sites, again because he was 'curious'. I kicked his 'curious' arse out two weeks ago and feel so happy, I realised I've been feeling second best for so long.
The fact that your do was so angry speaks volumes, mine used to become furious with me if I challenged him on it, saying 'all men do it and if they say they don't they are lying'. Oh and he will let you look at his phone once he's deleted everything.
Thinking of you.

• DP not do

I forgot to mention he paid for Onlyfans too :(
Again that was 'normal for all men's

Thanks for the post.
I’m sorry that you have experienced the same.
He has text to say he’s going to get out the house for a while and do I know where his toothbrush is !
This gets worse.
I survived a cheater once. Don’t think I can do it again. Also I’m financially dependant for much.

I would stay making plans for getting out. He cant treat you like this! Do you work? What age is your child, are they his child aswell? Do you have family or friends you can talk to irl xx

I don’t have any friends. I work part time in a low skill low paid job. I have one dc still at home not his dc( my dc has cancer and I care for her )
when I said we will have to sell the house then his reply was yeh 50/50 straight down the middle including the debt 😭 I didn’t know there was any 💔

Meant to say my dc is young adult

I’m in shock. I can’t believe that all the years I’ve been with him have come down to this. He chose this.
And yet I still want to think that I’ve got it wrong. How stupid ey.

Hey op, what's happening?