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Disrespectful boyfriend - what would you do?

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S0rrywhat · 09/03/2025 01:48

I am staying at my boyfriends house tonight. He has recently adopted a terrible snoring problem every night, previously had no issues over the last 2 and a half years. I woke him up 3 or 4 times to tell him he was snoring and was keeping me awake. His response was irritation that I had woken him up, suggested I sleep downstairs. When I suggested that maybe he should be the one to do that, he told me this was his house and his bedroom and if I didn't like it I shouldn't stay again. I suggested he should stop being an a total asshole and was being selfish as he was keeping me up, to which I was then told to fuck off and stop waking him up! To say I'm astounded is an understatement...what would you do here?!

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muffinmclay45 · 09/03/2025 17:26

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 17:04

Wow, so many people have incredibly low and uncouth standards.

Bottom line is that she was a guest in his house.

If a guest is uncomfortable, you don't tell them to fuck off no matter how tired you are. You get up and fix the problem. In this case it would mean him going to sleep on the sofa.

If that's too much trouble, don't host. Don't shag someone and then treat them like a pesky interloper.

Having a different point of view doesn't make anyone's standards lower than yours and certainly doesn't make them uncouth. How ridiculous.

He is her partner, he isn't getting a come dine with me score for hosting.

She was rude to repeatedly keep waking him up. He was probably dazed from sleep and reacted in frustration and confusion. If it was so distressing for her she would have got up and moved. The drama is unreal.

MarkingBad · 09/03/2025 17:30

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 17:24

@MarkingBad

If he'd been a decent host & gone to the sofa the first time, he would not have repeatedly been awakened.

OP could equally have been a decent guest and decided not to stay since the snoring has been a problem previously.

Good guests don't put themselves in situations they know would be uncomfortable to themselves.

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/03/2025 17:37

@muffinmclay45

So you don't think partners need to treat one another with courteous, gracious and respectful hosting?

He sounds like a crappy selfish boyfriend, not a "partner."

And yes, people who tell guests to fuck off are uncouth lowlife.

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