Handhold needed - think we're over

[heartbrokenlost]

Just had a big argument with DP. We just cannot see eye to eye on our relationship at all. We have 2 kids and I'm just so lost as to what to do next. In my heart I know we're not right for eachother and I could be happier elsewhere but I am so scared of the implications/finances etc of splitting.

I need to try and sleep and see if we can talk calmly in the morning but honestly I think this is it.

Congratulations on the job, I would temporarily maximise your contributions so your take home is lower so you still contribute less. I hope you didn't tell him exactly what your increased income would be?

Presumably you legally own the house in such a way that you can force sale?

Honestly I would move out of the bedroom and tell him you are too tired and busy with your new job for sex.

Start decluttering your and the DC clothes and other stuff.

Don't move into rented just tell him it's time to sell the house and go your separate ways. Any aggressive behaviour from him call the police. Ultimately you can get an occupation order if needed.

Just tell him you won't be his dogsbody anymore and 50:50 with the DC sounds like an excellent plan so let's start that now with the DC and the domestic load.

In fact tell him you can only finish at 5pm 2 or 3 days per week so he will need to do pick up.