Date talking about kissing before the first date

[Sunshine386]

I'm late thirties, due to go on a date with a man who is looking for something long term on a paid dating app. We haven't met in person yet, we are due to meet in a bar soon and the issue is he is talking about his ideal date of us having lots of conversation and kissing and saying he finds me hot. These are as voice notes on whatsapp because he prefers them to writing messages.

Would anyone else find this uncomfortable given we haven't met yet? Although I like his photos, with online dating you can't tell if there's a spark or desire to kiss until you meet so I find him describing this a bit strange and putting pressure on the situation at this stage. But I can't tell if he's doing this to appear enthusiastic rather than intentionally being weird. What do others think, would it put you off meeting someone who was doing this?

Massive ick. He doesn't care about you as a person at all, he's seen your photos and that's enough for him.

I'd be turned off by the voice notes too, it's one thing to text someone telling them how you'd like to kiss them (again, ick) but he knows you're listening to his voice, is he trying to create some intimacy before you've even met? Is he getting a kick out of it?

Either way he's immature and quite highly likely to be a sex pest. Luckily he's shown you who he is before you went on the date, block and move on.

@Sunshine386 , please don't push past these red flags just to be on a date. He's already made it clear that he intends to be kissing etc. That's the flow - in advance.
If you are feeling the ick, drop this one.

Probably not the point of your post but the thought of him making voice notes about what your date was going to be like & kissing made me laugh 😂 I mean the voice notes alone would annoy me tbh but the rest is almost comedy material, bless him.

He's absolutely panting after you.

The profile suggests looking for long term and he's a creative type so I thought perhaps he thinks that describing the kissing is somehow sensual or something

Nope.

I am creative myself, and I can tell you that doesn't really change men that much. Just look at how many weird or abusive men cluster around New Age interests and health groups and things like that.

Sadly, even though some would balk at my thinking, I think creative men are more likely than the average man to have 'niche' sexual interests.