People who cannot feel the charm of a love song?

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Have you ever been in a relationship where you sent a deeply meaningful love song to someone which you had chosen carefully and at length, to express the depth and sweetness of your emotion for your person, only to have it land without so much as a flutter with that person?

And it consequently turns out that person has about the emotional register and responsiveness of a tepid half full glass of water?

I didn’t know whether to feel hurt or very sad for this person for missing out on the beauty of such moments shared.

I would rather feel the hurt of something that didn’t work out than this absence of the appreciation of especially dedicated musical art and lyrics.

I believe if some people register things like that on 5 levels, this guy felt it on perhaps 1, if that. And no, not neurodivergent, I know that neurodiverse people possibly feel that even more strongly, with a higher incidence of synesthesia.

I think this person merely lacked the milk of human kindness and gracious agreeableness. Very jarring to come across something like that.

Please share which song that was for you and the particular idea you were trying to share with your person.

Sending a love song is utterly toe-curling. I will not want to be close to someone with such juvenile behaviour.

I pay no attention to the lyrics in songs so it would go right over my head.
I've even been known to sing along with a song but not have any thought to what it was about,

OP, get in touch with the woman from this thread. You will get on like a house on fire.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3178898-DH-embarrassed-by-my-sensitivity

Eek, from the way you've written your post, I expect your attempt at sharing what you see asa beautiful moment made him cringe.

Only thing worse than a soppy love song, is a poem ew

It all sounds a bit cringe to be honest.
I'd hate if somebody did that for me.

Radio 2's Sunday Love Songs is my idea of hell.

Thank you PP for giving me the earworm of "Nothing gonna change my love for you"!!

DH and I will occasionally make the other listen to a song. It never goes well. He likes atonal off beat squawking and I like heavy metal. Other people's romantic or poetry or quotes often widely misses the target.

I had an ex like this and if I'm honest it was awfully twee and meaningless. Every card or text would be filled with song lyrics of poems from Google when he was apparently trying to express his feelings. Thing is though they meant nothing to me and actually made me question if he actually felt anything for me at all because they weren't his words and there wasn't anything from his heart. You dont need to be good with words to tell or show someone how much they mean to you.

I understand a couple who has a significant link to a song or something but to constantly recite Celine Dion or similar instead of finding your own words is not powerful and does not show your feelings to me at all.

The last man to send me 'love songs' was absolutely convinced that he was the epitome of depth and poetic soulfulness, and every song that he enjoyed was the highest of high taste and anyone who didn't enjoy them was obviously 'lacking something'. OPs post reminds me of him.

Turned out he was the most dreadful narcissist and very controlling as well. I never did get the point of some of the songs he used to send me. Perhaps I have absolutely no emotional range.

A lot of them sound quite stalkery or creepy. Stuff about ‘I can’t let you go even though you don’t need me’ and ‘I can’t live if living is without you.’

Or the worst "I'll be watching you". I have to turn over. It just gives me the creeps.

Or the Bruno Mars "Grenade" one. Kevin Bridges did an excellent sketch ripping it apart

God yes. But look at the lyrics to this song by The Foundations, it’s horrific.

The last two lines of the chorus are

‘Now, you told me that you wanna leave me
(Darling, I just can't let you)’

genius.com/The-foundations-baby-now-that-ive-found-you-lyrics

Did she end up locked in his basement????

Poems are very subjective too - an obvious point, but one that my teenage self had to learn the hard way!

I think sharing songs and poems only really works if it's between very like-minded people. Often we do it in an attempt to bridge a gap and bring someone closer, but it usually backfires and embarrasses all concerned.

What was the song, by the way?

Please share which song that was for you and the particular idea you were trying to share with your person.

Oops, missed that. It wasn't with a significant other (thank the Lord) but I have been known more than once to share Schubert's Winterreise (an entire song cycle, I'll have you know!) and its message of heartbreak and alienation. I can now exclusively reveal that this is a very poor strategy to bond with new acquaintances. 😅

I've never knowingly wailed at a Michelangelo but I think I'd probably get along well with that pp. I was a little offended when everybody just assumed that she was a troll!

No, thank you. I'd feel like I was involved with an emotionally immature teenager.

Or, he went "why the fuck is an AI sending me a love song".

I played The Proclaimers ‘Let’s Get Married’ to my now DH and waited for a response.

It went clean over his head.

I proposed via text in the end.

😂😂😂

Music is just so personal. If a guy sent me, say, a song by Nickleback for example, it would be over.