People who cannot feel the charm of a love song?

[theyshoothorsesdonthey]

Have you ever been in a relationship where you sent a deeply meaningful love song to someone which you had chosen carefully and at length, to express the depth and sweetness of your emotion for your person, only to have it land without so much as a flutter with that person?

And it consequently turns out that person has about the emotional register and responsiveness of a tepid half full glass of water?

I didn’t know whether to feel hurt or very sad for this person for missing out on the beauty of such moments shared.

I would rather feel the hurt of something that didn’t work out than this absence of the appreciation of especially dedicated musical art and lyrics.

I believe if some people register things like that on 5 levels, this guy felt it on perhaps 1, if that. And no, not neurodivergent, I know that neurodiverse people possibly feel that even more strongly, with a higher incidence of synesthesia.

I think this person merely lacked the milk of human kindness and gracious agreeableness. Very jarring to come across something like that.

Please share which song that was for you and the particular idea you were trying to share with your person.

I really hate love songs. If someone sent me a song and they got upset I didn’t give them the reaction they wanted, I’d find that very weird and a red flag.

How long have you been together ... sounds a bit full on to be honest. Not sure how I would react and I love a ballad.

What if he sent you a song and you didn't really like the song, what would that mean?

Would it be the complete breakdown of your relationship?
Because the idea of a partner is not that they will be an identical copy of yourself, but that they will bring ideas, thoughts and experiences to you that you would not otherwise have.

Was it Fix You by Coldplay?
“Lights will gi-i-i-i-i-ude you home…”

My twat ex tried this with Hoobastank's The Reason. I'm assuming he wanted me to focus on the lyrics "I'm not a perfect person, I never meant to do those things to you" yeah, admitting you're shit doesn't negate all the beatings and knocking me out. He seemed to think I should be overcome with emotion. Twat🙄

If he didn't appreciate the pathos of Glenn Medieros' Nothings Gonna Change my Love for You then LTB pronto

Generally find love songs cringey. Especially from bands like Boyzone, Westlife etc..vomit!!!

Don't mind if me and dp have had a few drinks and some end up on YouTube and we half ironically enjoy them together. Edit: NOT the above bands. More like 80s cheese like Charles & Eddie, All4One, etc

If he randomly sends me them out of nowhere it's generally a dead giveaway he's been drinking.

That will forever be Dawn and Pete’s vow renewal to me

Ughhhhhhhh I would die inside so hard if someone sent that to me 😂

Op I would date you and love that! (Unfortunately I am heterosexual )

Hilarious

I love when Pete and dawn sing this in Gavin and Stacey

Reminds me when I guy I was chatting to on OLD sent me a video of him dad dancing in his living room and asked me what I thought - I literally had no words. Sad thing was he was so proud of himself

Still got the video on my phone and it makes me giggle and cringe in equal measures

Oh, but to me, Meatloaf and Guns n Roses have some of the BEST love songs!!!!!
See also, Metallica and Staind

👆This

I'd feel embarrassed and uncomfortable if someone sent me a love song and expected me to respond in a particular way.

'Our Song' for me and a previous dp was Libyan Students From Hell by Atilla the Stockbroker. Very unromantic but it was playing when we got together and after that, it always made us smile whenever we heard it.

Oh God, no. Most lyrics are absolute shite. I mean, really, really terrible.

I'd far rather someone just wrote a few heartfelt lines about how they felt than sending me a song about it, it looks a bit like you've got no emotional creativity of your own.

Not trying to pile on, OP but it does look like you've tried to make it all about you. Look at me with my incredible taste and sophistication! So it's a hard nope from me.

Share the song OP?
You first.

I loved "if you fall I will catch you, I'll be waiting ....", creases me every time 😂

Sending love songs is cringey to me.
But then again i dont believe in love.

Songs like this mean different things to different people. I'd die of the ick if someone sent me a song and then was upset because I didn't react in the way they thought I should.

Yes you've got to share the song with us OP....

Stuck for content to pad out your lame listicle OP?

I find the idea of someone sending me a love song a bit cringe.

Me too. If someone did this to me and expected me to react in a way of their choosing, it would be something of a red flag for me.
I don’t think you should be so supercilious and cutting about the intensity of others’ emotions, on the basis of them not loving the same things as you. I’m moved by music and words which have depth and meaning…for me. Most archetypal ‘love’ songs leave me cold because they’re so superficial, sugary and devoid of any real feeling. I’m sure others feel differently, and that’s fine!

I am that person! Love songs don't move me, really. Cleverly written songs about everyday things or that tell a story or have a twist at the end, do.