FWB

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does anyone else have any experience with fwb? I’ve just started my first one, I’m 43 single with 4 kids please dont judge! We set rules a few weeks ago, so no catching feelings, be honest truthful etc -met up for the first time this week and the sex was great. He wants to get involved with us inviting other people to join in, first one next Thursday with someone he knows. I stayed over at his we got on well he text the next morning to ask how I was feeling, said he really enjoyed it etc. just looking for experience or feedback from others who have been in this situation! Tia x

No that isn’t him

Sorry for the lack of replies it’s been super busy. We had a second meet up last night, it was fun, he was asking me about if I minded about this and that,

What do you mean? Like….do you mind giving oral sex to another woman?

Do you mind 😂😂
You mean would you enjoy, & besides all emphasis could be on the man if that turns you on to watch ..
My friend , a guy often has 3ways with a guy & his wife , all emphasis is on the woman, he never engages sexually with her husband

Where are your boundaries? What are you happy with....take some time to think.
This isn't the only man with a penis.

Dear god woman, he saw you coming. This whole situation is moving at his pace and you’re just going along with it.

I get that you may be curious but this is going at lightning pace.

Thank-you for all your replies and sorry I haven't been on here to answer. So update - we've had 2 dates at his house. We were going to set up another one last night (this one in a hotel) for a 3 way with another guy (please dont judge) as we had one with a female friend of his the first time. Now normally if I dont reply to him he's straight on to me I'll take that as a no why aren't you replying. Now this time. he didn't reply after 5 minutes said he couldn't chat I was feeling ill and had the kids running round so I asked him just this once if he was okay and did he still want to book the hotel as wasn't sure if he did anymore/just a feeling. That annoyed him said it was weird and he was done, then 5 mins later asked me a sexual question and said oh just because we're done doesn't mean I dont want to speak to you again, then asked if I'd be annoyed as he'd slept with someone else tonight then told me he was messing me about and he hadnt then chat soon. So no, this fwb situation did not end well at all and has left me completely confused.

So he promised a MFM threesome after a FMF threesome, but changed his mind on the MFM once you went through with the FMF? Is that right?

What are you confused about? As most people in the thread told you already this isn’t a FWB - that’s a mutual arrangement where both parties have a non committed arrangement. It’s friends who sleep together.

This bloke is acting like you’re an un paid sex worker just there to service his sexual demands. This is all about him and you’re just a convenient body. He probably can’t believe his luck he’s found someone who will just do whatever he wants without boundaries.

You have DC and yet you’re putting yourself into risky situations just to please a man who has no respect for you. Where are your boundaries and self respect ?

OP I don't understand why you're confused. We said this would happen.

Block the daft twat.

I asked him one question if he had changed his mind about it 5 mins after he told me he couldn’t chat as I know he was nervous and then he accused me of being weird and said he was done with us **

Hold on a sec !!!!
So you’ve had the 3 way already with other girl he’s arranged it all & clearly you never met her Til the night & by the sounds of it , he sets up the 3way with the guy , as to which you haven’t met him either b4 ! !
What age are you ?If you don’t mind me asking .
You’re coming across as young & naive ..
Why are you agreeing to sleep with people you’ve never met before ?
You’re on the road to anxiety City ! !

This is clearly not a FWB. It sounds like you're being used for sex work.

You are being very casual about putting yourself in very dangerous situations meeting random people you don't know for sex. Have you checked out this guy online? Have you seen his id? Do you have a friend you can text the locations of your meetings to and a check in time? Are you using birth control and condoms? Do you have regular STI screenings set up with your doctor?

She said in her OP she's 43.

He wants to get involved with us inviting other people to join in

Do you welcome this as part of your original goal or... is it the price of continuing?

Be aware of people who play nicely at first then start to test your boundaries

Then I read the rest of the thread. I'm sorry OP.

What are you confused about? He’s treating you like a mug, like someone he can string along and drop and pick up whenever he wants. He wants the sex on tap so isn’t going to just cut contact. Please stop humiliating yourself and block him on everything.

Are you actually attracted to women and do you want to have group sex? You sound very passive in all this and tbh if these aren't things you are positively seeking to experience, it sounds like he's just using you as a prop in his sexual fantasies.

You're going along with things he suggests, but why? Do you want more from him? Are you generally bit of a people (man) pleaser?

You sound very wrapped up in what he wants and not what you want. I think you need to admit to yourself that you want a boyfriend.. there's nothing wrong with that, you're not a sex doll.

I appreciate all of your replies. He is blocked now and no going back there again x

That’s good to hear ..
You’ll only end up upset in the long run ..

Maybe , it would be nicer for you to meet someone that will only want to be with you & not be off having sex with others ..
Someone geuine ….I know it’s nice to have company x

Agreed x

Kindly, you need help.

And a sti test.

If your happy with it ,great.
Just don't be pushed into doing anything you don't want to do nor involve anyone else anyone fwb set up .
It's something you are both in charge of , not just him .
He is not the boss of you .

So a week after.him saying he's done he texts me last night out of the blue saying who's this and then sorry your name and number came up on my phone, then kept texting when I didn't reply saying shall I delete your number I'm like for God's sake. Then he apologised for going off and said he owes me and then asked if I'd been with anyone else in the past week since he disappeared! 🙈

Then said he got scared that's why he went off. When I asked him why he asked if I'd been with anyone else he said just wondered then went on about what porn he should watch! For God's sake