FWB

[BeRoseScroller]

does anyone else have any experience with fwb? I’ve just started my first one, I’m 43 single with 4 kids please dont judge! We set rules a few weeks ago, so no catching feelings, be honest truthful etc -met up for the first time this week and the sex was great. He wants to get involved with us inviting other people to join in, first one next Thursday with someone he knows. I stayed over at his we got on well he text the next morning to ask how I was feeling, said he really enjoyed it etc. just looking for experience or feedback from others who have been in this situation! Tia x

I've just got out of a FWB. I developed feelings for him and he ended it. Im still getting over it a month later. Keep your dignity and dont do it.

Putting this guy aside is a threesome with another women actually something you want to explore? Do you fantasize about another women involved and does it turn you on.

If the answer is no or not sure don't do it as your just being a mans people pleaser (aka sexual object!)

If it is something you like the idea of go for it but at your pace and on your terms.

Why? If this was your daughter would you be happy with it? You are worth more, are you reacting to something bad that has happened to you? Please be safe 💕

Yes this is very good advice, this is why I’m petrified in case this happens 🙈

There’s your answer for you then, FWB not for you ..
You’re contemplating getting into A FWB relationship, with a guy , that you’ve met once may I add ! , that wants you to call around this weekend to meet his Female friend , with high hopes on his side of ye engaging in a 3 way ! ! !
and you’re afraid you might catch feelings for this guy .. like seriously !!!!!!
Back to the drawing board OP ….

@BeRoseScroller i asked if you had been involved in anything like this before as that would make a heck of a difference.

I hope you’ve come to a decision, @BeRoseScroller . TBH, if you’ve never had a desire to (sorry to be so blunt) lick another woman’s clit, perhaps this isn’t the route for you. Don’t feel obligated, just because your new FB has some grand epiphany.

In my experience FWB rarely works.
If you’re genuinely friends and have great sex, he either falls in love with you, you with him or both with each other.
If there are no feelings, you are probably not friends and then it can start to feel very empty and one or both of you will end up feeling used.
This is just based on my experience, however.
In your case, it seems that he perhaps just wants soneone to fuck and fulfill his sexual needs/desires. Which is fine as long as you’re fine with fulfilling that role.

I've tried to pm you. This sounds like one hell of a coincidence... I think I may be the other woman. Can I ask you a couple of questions about him please?

I'm not sure why private messaging is now disabled... have you seen pictures of this woman. I think this may be me. What area are you in please and can you tell my his initials . Thank you

Is he tall with dark hair and lives in an apartment?/ flat? First name starts with L

It may be a coincidence. There are a lot of men on OLD looking for casual sex and threesomes.

I'd also imagine it's quite likely he is tall with dark hair 😂. Not many men would be able to mess at least 2 women around like this!!

It’s not safe bringing someone else. You’ve got kids. Be very careful.

“Sowhatistheendgame · Yesterday 21:32

In my experience FWB rarely works.
If you’re genuinely friends and have great sex, he either falls in love with you, you with him or both with each other.
If there are no feelings, you are probably not friends and then it can start to feel very empty and one or both of you will end up feeling used.
This is just based on my experience, however.
In your case, it seems that he perhaps just wants soneone to fuck and fulfill his sexual needs/desires. Which is fine as long as you’re fine with fulfilling that role.”

I’m in a very long-term relationship and have never had an FWB opportunity but have been curious about how they work and what @Sowhatistheendgame says seems to make complete sense to me.

There is another thread on here re FWB situations. The thing that jumped out at me was it was suggested that FWB arrangements were a way to avoid the pressures and heartbreak risk of a committed relationship but then so many of the people were posting about how upset they’d been when an FWB arrangement had ended or how they’d had to end one because the other person had developed feelings and were sad about that. There were exceptions of course but, overall, it didn’t really sound like the FWB arrangements were working as intended.

Sex is an intimate act. As @Sowhatistheendgame says, if you’re having good times and good sex with someone you like, it’s hard not to develop feelings and I don’t really think it’s something you can just decide not to do.

This guy sounds way too opportunistic in any case. He’s already telling you that one person isn’t enough and you haven’t even slept together yet.

It depends entirely on the man. I'm in a FWB situationship, but he treats me really well. He's really good at the friends part. Texts me quite a lot and is just as happy to go out for dinner as he is to go to bed. I wouldn't want a FWB where I felt I was just being used for sex. That's not FWB, that's just treating someone badly! I would never want a FWB where we never did anything but sex. There's no reason why you can't go out for dinner or go to the cinema with a FWB.

As regards the threesome thing, that's entirely your call. It's a separate concept from FWB. Our relationship is heavily influenced by sex, but it's stuff that we both want.

Prior to being in a long and terrible marriage, FWB would never have worked for me. These days, I'm allergic to commitment, have zero faith in people, and never, ever want to marry or live with someone ever again, so FWB suits me well. Perhaps it works best for commitment-phobes.

I’m single 10 years, & firstly I did hook ups as I didn’t want anything relationship like , then FWB , sorry I ever went there as I got attached & now I’m half sorry I stayed single so long & didn’t look for a relationship maybe 5 years ago , as i want to meet someone now but find it difficult ! !
I agree with ThisFluebtBiscuit , FWB maybe best suited to commitment phones 🤷🏻‍♀️

Phobes even 😂

To be fair, I have had my phone number far longer than any relationship.

Good point!!

Oh that’s not good EBearhug ! ! 😂 😂 🙈

Is there a difference between friends with benefits and a as it was called the last time I had one a fuck buddy. If the answer is no then it should all be about the sex. You shouldn't really care who else they are sleeping with or getting confused about do they do they not like me. You shouldn't care, It's a weird set up really because people aren't robots so you can't help it if feelings get hurt ect.

What is confusing? Sounds like you want a relationship but will accept the FWB scraps he’s throwing you.

OP - I’ve just read your previous threads about your dodgy tinder date and I really think you need to step back from meeting men online until you’re clear of what your boundaries are.

You seem to let yourself get dragged into very iffy situations with men and don’t really put boundaries in place.

Theres nothing g wrong with g with wanting a FWB if that’s really what you want but your threads do indicate you don’t have a clue what you’re looking for and are just putting yourself at risk of being taken advantage of or worse.

This 100%