Am I being unreasonable in relationship or just being honest?

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I have been with my boyfriend around 1.5 years. We have a lovely relationship. I coparent with my ex husband 50/50 and this works well for us. So far my relationship has been very separate to my parenting life. My boyfriend (understandably) hold like thing sir move forward where we combine our lives a bit more. He would like to meet my children and live together in near enough future.
i have explained that right now I am happy with how things are. I’m not keen to introduce anyone into my children’s lives, I’m happy it being my and my children and they’re still very young and have had women in and out of their dads life so that does shape my views on this.
my boyfriend has suggested that I get some counselling to work through my issues with commitment and moving forward. Yes my awful marriage has affected how I see my future but untimely I am happy and don’t really feel I need to change my views on this.
I have told him that this may change in the future as my children get older and as our relationship grows but for now I am happy with how it is.
I feel that we are on different pages and that neither is right or wrong and maybe then this isn’t going to work. But he feels I need to change how I feel about the future

OP, you're honestly a breath of fresh air. Finally a sensible woman putting her children's and her needs and wants ahead of her want for a relationship or to appease a man.

You've been open and honest about what you can and want to offer to a relationship and it's up to him to accept that or move on. Not hang around hoping you'll change your mind. And the suggestion that you go to counselling so that you can fall in line with what he wants is just beyond insulting. Like you don't know what's best for you and your children?

1.5 years is nothing in a relationship when you have children. I absolutely believe that you don't know a person well enough at that stage to invite them into your children's homes and lives and open your own lovely, hard fought for life up to vulnerability.

For what it's worth, I've had relationships of 3years + that have never met my DC, and that's exactly how I like it. That was fulfilling for me and as much as I wanted to give to a relationship and they could either like it or lump it really.

You've been exceptionally open and honest with him and he should take it or leave it at this stage.

He doesn't think it's horrible because he thinks you will change your mind and he lives in hope of having a future with you.

I agree with previous poster that your boyfriend wants full commitment with marriage, kids, house etc - this is way too important to compromise on and he will eventually become resentful. You're still in honeymoon phase but that will change.

This relationship has no future. I don't understand why don't you find someone compatible who wants same things as you.

@Bibi12 OP has been open and honest with her BF. It's up to him to decide whether that is enough for him or not. She is not leading him on in any way and has nothing to feel guilty about. The ball is in his court.

Have I said anything about her leading him on or having something to feel guilty about?

I don't see the point in investing in relationship that has no future and this relationship has no future because they are fundamentally incompatible. Unless she's not bothered about anything serious and long term but that's not an impression I got from her posts.

So my advice is still the same - best to find someone more suitable. What they do in the end is their business. I'm offering advice, not pushing anyone to take it.