How do threesums impact relationships?

[Thelifeofelle]

I’m a little nervous to start this but after reading other posts on here I’m going to be brave. I 34 married to my DH for 10 years and have 2 children. Our sex life has been slowing down and if I’m really honest, that is because of me. I just don’t feel sexy any more, my boobs are not what they were and I have jiggly bits now.
my DH suggested that we spice things up and maybe try an app to talk about our sexual desires. We did and the app was terrible, but he said he would like to have a three way and me not taking it seriously said the same. After we spoke about it and I brushed it off, I have started thinking about it and the idea of another woman has excited me more than I ever expected. To the point where I’m starting to look at other women and how I would even bring it up to them.
I wanted to see if anyone has gone further than just dreaming about it and how the relationship was after. My DH said he is happy to watch me and another woman, but if it was me I feel like I’d want the attention off everyone involved. And a big part of me gets turned on at the idea of watching him with another woman.

Brilliant, you sexual deviant.

I can't take your reply seriously.
Maybe try harder next time.

I’m sorry I didn’t know that I said I was going ahead with this though. I thought I just asked for any advice or personal experiences. How silly of me, but it’s a good job you are here to keep people in line.

These threads are often started by men imo.

I wouldn't plan it and wouldn't do it in a commited relationship. I have some amazing fun at parties and in situations that occured spontaneously but I can't imagine sharing someone I love with someone else.

What’s the app that you used?

One of my friends husband really pushed for a threesome. She wasn’t keen at all, but went along with it. They met a man online, and luckily he turned out to be nice. Very nice…

It worked out for her, as she has never been happier. She kicked out her husband and has recently bought a house with the new man.

I know it sounds like a story, but it genuinely isn’t. I don’t think she realised how awful her husband was until she met a man who really did (and still does) treat her like a princess

Serves her husband right 😀

Maybe go to a swinger club

I’m no where near that stage!! I just wanted to know that I wasn’t alone

I think they always work out really well. There is in fact a over-supply of single bisexual women keen to have no strings attached sex with middle aged toddler parents who lack sexual motivation and body confidence. I can see nothing that can go wrong here.

I have had several (and moresomes too). Including with single bisexual women though they are absolutely called unicorns for a reason. Don't think you'll be beating them off with a stick if you decide to start looking!!

We have fun and being non monogamous (within agreed parameters) enhances our relationship and sex life. BUT IMO that's because our sex life is really good and we don't need that extra stuff to be satisfied, it's just a bit of fun. I would never if our relationship or sex life wasn't in tip top condition. We've paused shenanigans before when things have been a bit rough between us until things get better. I would never look to open the relationship as a solution to a humdrum sex life. One caveat is that if you think you really might be bisexual that if you're allowed to date/hook up with a woman on the side it might have a positive impact on your sex life with your DH. Or it might kill it 🤷🏼‍♀️

How do you actually know that? Plenty of women are curious about this kind of thing.

My personal opinion is that threesomes only work if non of the 3 are in a relationship. Can't imagine being happy watching the person I love being turned on by and fuck someone else.
I think the idea is probably more of a turn on than the reality.

My friend over shares... she's told me all about her threesomes and swingers parties etc all initiated by her and mostly MMF or her her (now ex) h and another couple. She left her h for the other man.
Her h had only taken part to try and save their marriage ironically...

Consider a foursome with another couple, less complicated

It's a kink for lots of people. You might not be able to imagine it but other people can!

Or a onesome

Sexual exploration is best done from a place of confidence and security not as a treatment for a wobble

maybe you are bi sexual ?

It sounds like a lot of effort.

If my husband suggested this, i'd be filling out divorce papers,

I literally said in the very first line of my post that this was just an idea… what on earth is your point? You wanted peoples opinions, don’t throw your toys out of the pram when you get them 🙄

Like I clearly said, it's my opinion -you do you.

Finding a willing 3rd spoke will be harder than you think. They are not called unicorns for nothing.