Husband saying I don't make an effort with my appearance

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I've been with my husband for 8 years and married for 6 months. My husband says to me he hates my hair up and says he doesn't like some of my clothes. I tried to see his point of view and I don't really wear my hair up and bought my glam clothes.
Today I had my hair up and went to the gym. When I came back, my husband said stop wearing your hair like that and you don't make any effort anymore now you're married.
This hurt. I honestly don't think it's true. I get compliments from my friends and family on my hair, lipstick etc.
What do I do? I would never say something like this to someone

You tell him to go fuck himself!
Seriously!
How dare he, you’re not here to be his show pony.

Is this just since you got married ? What way are you responding to his insults?

He wants you to wear your hair down at the gym? What a twat.

I suspect from the fact that you didn't laugh in his face that this is a gentle slide into worse misogyny rather than a total personality transplant.

First post nailed it.

First reply nails it!

Please don’t let anyone dictate to you how to have your hair or tell you what to wear .

Have you changed your appearance recently? Not that he should be saying this if that's the case anyway

Has this been an issue pre marriage? Has anything else changed?

He comments on you wearing your hair up at the gym?

Totally out of order - he needs telling

So rude. Get shot!!

Are you supposed to go out in a mini skirt to the gym then? What a knob!

He is being ridiculous and unkind!

Are you meant to walk around in a ball gown with your hair perfectly done to the gym?!

Divorce that loser as soon as you can!

What would happen if you told him tough shit & you'll wear what clothes you want & do your hair how you want? How would he react?

I'd be telling him to go fuck himself because I can wear what I want and have my hair however I want it. If he doesn't like it he knows where the door is. Don't let him dictate this to you and accept it. It will only get worse. If he gets you doing this his next one will be that he doesn't like your friends so you shouldn't see them anymore. Sounds like a classic abuser in the making

I'm sure this is just the tip of the iceberg. He has no right to expect you to wear your hair or dress in any particular way, but x1000 to get so snippy about the gym.

What elds does he do that is controlling?

Has he always been this controlling?

How does he respond when you say no to something or disagree with him?

Lawyer up because this won't get better. Now you're married he sees you as his property and you should dress how he wants. Before you know it, the control will leak into all other areas of your life, OP.

Yuck. How vile.

Remind him to fuck off. What would he be putting on the market if you suddenly (and deservedly) left him? Is he the next Tom Hardy? Is he fuck. Tell him to shut up.

This is the thin end of a very nasty wedge op

I can guarantee this man looks like a potato. How dare he talk to you like that, he's going to erode your self esteem and confidence. Have you spoken to any friends and family about it? I'd be making an escape plan.

As all the above. It will only get worse. He doesn't respect you. Please don't have children with him, and set the ball rolling to divorce him.

I'm hardly the picture of elegance on a weekend morning in my pjs and massive dressing gown. My hair is short and curly so could be quite literally pointing in any direction when I wake up. Until I have my shower and sort myself out there is a good chance I don't exactly smell as fresh as a daisy......my husband has said precisely Jack shit about my appearance because he is not a prize cock.
Anyone who expects you to dress a certain way to avoid their disappointment can get to fucksville.

he’d hate being married to me in that case

As a starting point you should consider if he’s displaying other controlling or abusive behaviours. This graphic will help.